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Jimi 
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Posted on: Nov. 25 2001,20:18 |
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<Rant>OK, tomorrow I am going out with a certain someone whom I have been friends with for a while (a year). We are first going to the cinema with friends then going down to a city bar. The thing is I really like this girl and have done since I met her, but originally she really wasn't interested but a lot has changed since then (me for one, drastic change in appearence and personality). Now I'm not sure how she feels because she seems much more comfortable with me now. We have really good times together and I'm not great at this but I think there is some definate flirting going on, on my part and hers. Eg. try to picture the scene, The other day she was waiting for her bus so I offered to wait with her, well all the time we were there she was on the seat with her legs outstretched and I was standing up with my legs either side of hers and she was happily rooting through my pockets and messing with my shirt (I was wearing a t-shirt with a shirt undone over the top) doing it up and whatever... It doesn't sound like alot but we are really close and I know this is out of character for her and there isn't a chance she would of acted like this when we first met, and during lessons at college there is a lot of tickling and messing about going on, also out of character.And also she can't get home that night so I said she could stay at mine if she wanted, I was expecting a no as she has always had a problem with satying over at mine before but I was shocked when she said yes, aggghhhhh I don't know what any of this means, I've never had a real relationship in my life and I'm screwed if I know what I've got to do.
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Tomorrow what do I do, I don't want to go over the top and blow it all but I do want to do something, my friends have said I should just talk to her but I don't know if that would make things awkward.
</question> Save me Det Net, any advice welcome. Dark Angel 99, wanna return the favour from the 'I A Girl' Thread (remember me?). Anyone, any advice just god please help! Edit: missed a bit. This message has been edited by Jimi on November 26, 2001 at 03:21 PM
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Wiley
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Posted on: Nov. 25 2001,22:44 |
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Ok, I can't read women's signals for shit either (a girl once handed me her panties when we were out and I thought she was kidding ..she told me a week later that she wasn't ...fuck I'm an idiot) but I do know this for a fact. Get the fuck out of the "friend zone" fast!! Trust me on this. I had a girl I was friends with for way too long, when it got to be more then friends it was too awkward to last. The problem was that we had been telling eachother our most intimate details (even graphic accounts of our sexual relationships with other people we were dating) for too long. It's hard to have a budding romance when there is no mystery.
Trust me, make your move. If she's into you it's all good. If not tell her that you were stupid and had a bit too much to drink ...it won't happen again and you value her friendship. Then do what you can to keep her around as a friend, but be warned you may be doomed to listen to stories about the jerk she doesn't even like but is sleeping with anyway. And why can't he be more like you ...but she won't do you because you're just friends.</rant>
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askheaves
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Posted on: Nov. 26 2001,01:36 |
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Minus, you can have that torch.As for you, Jimi... I'd say, Carpe Felum. But, tactfully. Maybe talk about what you want from the world with her around, and see if she's receptive (mostly talking about women, of course). Watch something on TV and sit next to her... close. Try something subtle and see if she goes for it. There's ways of encroaching on her personal bubble to see if she's interested without warding her off. And, there's ways of knowing she's uncomfortable, meaning she's not interested. It's a subtle art, but one that you can practice now. Very useful later in life.
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