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LiNeY 
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Posted on: Jul. 07 2001,08:50 |
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As the topic got somehow deleted... I am trying again.Thanks for all your advice, guys... unfortunately, it isn't as easy as that.
First of all, that guy is just a friend. I am not sure whether I want him to be anything more than that... for several reasons.
Secondly, "asking him out" isn't as easy as it sounds... we don't really have a dating culture here, and if I asked him out, it would be almost like a proposal.  And again, I am not sure whether I want him to be my boyfriend. I am actually not sure whether I want a boyfriend at all at the time... I am getting along rather well with my single life, and I don't know whether I have the time, energy and patience to spare for a guy.  Well actually I wouldn't mind having a boyfriend... but none of the guys I know (and that includes my best friends) would be suitable for that.  ------------------
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cr0bar
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Posted on: Jul. 07 2001,23:54 |
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You need to make up your mind. Nothing's more infuriating than someone who doesn't know what they want.
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incubus
mack daddy
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Posted on: Jul. 08 2001,03:19 |
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quote:
Originally posted by LiNeY:
How can I make sure he won't freak??? Any guy advice on that?"friends that f***" no way. I'd never do that. Especially not with that guy. Make a decision on what I want... I guess I am trying to do that. I am already pretty sure that I don't want to have him as a boyfriend...
So what DO you want?
You've said you dont want to b0rk him. Fair play, then you can focus on companionship. But, you don't want him as a boyfriend? The only thing left in the equation is friendship. You may as well concentrate on that. It seems like you enjoy each other's company, so make sure you spend time together. If anything further happens and you both dig it, <picard> make it so. </picard> Just my 2 cents, but I back up cr0bar and PG here - from a mans perspective, theres nothing more irritating than a close girl friend walking that line between friends and friends+ but not making her mind up! Look after yourself. Mike
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As I chase the leaves like the words I never find ...
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LiNeY
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Posted on: Jul. 08 2001,13:51 |
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Well, as I said, I don't want him as a boyfriend, and I don't want to just go to bed with him, so my mind's made up - the thing has to be friendship. Just, I am not sure on what HE wants, and that makes it sorta hard for me to figure what I should do. I am a bit flirty maybe, I'll admit that, but not more than with any other guy.But anyway, in the last days the whole thing got still more messed up. People started spreading rumours about us a while ago, and on Friday, someone said to me (while I was standing with that guy and talking) "oh hey, I think you're quite horny for him!" So now I am really confused, and he is too I guess. We haven't really talked since then, it has just become an awkward silence... at school we can't really talk because there's always someone making silly comments. And our usual "shopping and coffee" trip downtown during our free lesson on Monday didn't take place today.  It was really stupid, I said to him "I gotta go shopping again today, you wanna come with me?" and instead of his usual "yes" came a "uh, dunno, I gotta go see the guidance counsellor"... so I went on my own. Later in the day, someone said "did you two go shopping again together?" and I was like, "no, I went alone", and he was like "no, I went alone". Then he said something like "I told ya, I had to see the guidance counsellor, and when I was through, you were already gone!" That left me really TOTALLY confused. WHAT THE HELL IS UP HERE? Do you think I should call him? It would be the only way for us to talk in peace and quiet, and sort at least that stupid rumours thing out. My mom said "no way, don't call him!" but she is someone of the 1960's never-ever-ever-call-a-man-on-the-phone kind. I need some advice from you guys... ------------------
I can resist everything - except Temptation. (Oscar Wilde)
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