Search Members Help

» Welcome Guest
[ Log In :: Register ]

Page 1 of 212>>

[ Track This Topic :: Email This Topic :: Print this topic ]

 reply to topic new topic new poll
Topic: Not the best place, but...< Next Oldest | Next Newest >
 Post Number: 1
Mute Search for posts by this member.
FNG
Avatar



Group: Members
Posts: 4
Joined: Sep. 2000
PostIcon Posted on: Sep. 13 2000,23:08  Skip to the next post in this topic. Ignore posts   QUOTE
I'm not sure if this is the right place, but here it goes.

I have ALOT of friends who are always talking to me about their gf and their wonderful nights, and I feel REALLY left out. I've never had a gf in my life, and it is really starting to bug me. I'm an EXTREMELY shy person, so don't give me that be-yourself crap, I have for years and it has gotten me nowhere. just give alittle help to a pathetic soul, plzkthx!

------------------
Quoth the Mute," ."

Offline
Top of Page Profile Contact Info 
 Post Number: 2
kuru Search for posts by this member.
Detonate.net's 9mm wielding geek-hit-Goddess
Avatar



Group: Members
Posts: 2566
Joined: Aug. 2000
PostIcon Posted on: Sep. 14 2000,00:38 Skip to the previous post in this topic. Skip to the next post in this topic. Ignore posts   QUOTE
go to parties.
even if you're not the life of the party, it'll give you a chance to be approached by others

------------------
kuru
'if your children ever found out how lame you are, they'd kill you in your sleep.' -frank zappa

Offline
Top of Page Profile Contact Info 
 Post Number: 3
Mute Search for posts by this member.
FNG
Avatar



Group: Members
Posts: 4
Joined: Sep. 2000
PostIcon Posted on: Sep. 14 2000,01:13 Skip to the previous post in this topic. Skip to the next post in this topic. Ignore posts   QUOTE
Well, I would, but if you live in my corner of Cali, you would know that thereare no parties. Dullest place on earth, or at least tieing with any place that Ben Stien goes. Thanks for the advice, though.

------------------
Quoth the Mute," ."

[This message has been edited by Mute (edited September 13, 2000).]

Offline
Top of Page Profile Contact Info 
 Post Number: 4
Ozymandias Search for posts by this member.
DetVet
Avatar



Group: Members
Posts: 204
Joined: Jun. 2000
PostIcon Posted on: Sep. 14 2000,01:14 Skip to the previous post in this topic. Skip to the next post in this topic. Ignore posts   QUOTE
I feel the same way a lot of times, Mute.

kuru: Not to say that's not good advice, because sometimes it is, but some people truly dislike parties. I don't know if Mute is one of them or not [okay, so he's not], but I for one, really hate them. It would be a rare occasion if I went to a party. It's not my environment, and I wouldn't feel comfortable, and would most likely just leave really damn angry.

------------------
But where is Gamera?

[This message has been edited by Ozymandias (edited September 13, 2000).]

Offline
Top of Page Profile Contact Info WEB 
 Post Number: 5
Mute Search for posts by this member.
FNG
Avatar



Group: Members
Posts: 4
Joined: Sep. 2000
PostIcon Posted on: Sep. 14 2000,01:21 Skip to the previous post in this topic. Skip to the next post in this topic. Ignore posts   QUOTE
Ozymandias: You are right kinda. Parties aren't my atmosphere exactly, but I do still like them. Though chances are I'm one of the people in the corner until I decide to leave.
Offline
Top of Page Profile Contact Info 
 Post Number: 6
Rhydant Search for posts by this member.
I don't work here.
Avatar



Group: Members
Posts: 1843
Joined: Dec. 2000
PostIcon Posted on: Sep. 14 2000,02:24 Skip to the previous post in this topic. Skip to the next post in this topic. Ignore posts   QUOTE
Mute -- do you live in Escondido or near it? its pretty damned dul down here too.... but i feel your pain man. but ive had a gf

------------------
UT 0wnz j00 all!

Offline
Top of Page Profile Contact Info WEB 
 Post Number: 7
Mute Search for posts by this member.
FNG
Avatar



Group: Members
Posts: 4
Joined: Sep. 2000
PostIcon Posted on: Sep. 14 2000,02:33 Skip to the previous post in this topic. Skip to the next post in this topic. Ignore posts   QUOTE
Nope, Central Cali. VERY dull here.

------------------
Quoth the Mute," ."

Offline
Top of Page Profile Contact Info 
 Post Number: 8
Willy Pete Search for posts by this member.
FNG
Avatar



Group: Members
Posts: 153
Joined: Jun. 2000
PostIcon Posted on: Sep. 14 2000,11:17 Skip to the previous post in this topic. Skip to the next post in this topic. Ignore posts   QUOTE
Dammit Mute, you're still in high school. Don't feel the pressure to get a gf just 'cause everyone has one. Say "so what" and carry on. Try and organise cool, different stuff to do. There's gotta be some kids who'd want to maybe go to a lake for a night-over barbecue or something. Some of the best times I had didn't involve parties or booze/drugs. You remember those the clearest I suppose.
You could try something totally weird, like signing up for a class doing something you would never think of doing or need in the future. Meeting someone in that kind of environment gives you something in common to talk about.
Talk about it and just go 'Hey I'm hungry, let's talk about this while we eat.' Just say 'Let's go.', not 'Do you wanna?'. People like decisiveness in others.
Before trying to settle on one girl, date a few. If you're a fun, humourous guy who can talk about different things, girls will find this cool and you'll probably get a few good friends this way. They'll tell their friends, so when their friends get asked by you, they'll be totally cool with it. Shit, even ask out 2 or more of them at the same time. Don't even try and match them with other guys. I've done this and found that the girls find it quite refreshing not to be under the pressure of having a guy ask them out just to get laid. You'll probably a call from them asking you out later on. Girl Friends are usually better than girl-friends at your stage in life.
Offline
Top of Page Profile Contact Info 
 Post Number: 9
kuru Search for posts by this member.
Detonate.net's 9mm wielding geek-hit-Goddess
Avatar



Group: Members
Posts: 2566
Joined: Aug. 2000
PostIcon Posted on: Sep. 14 2000,16:00 Skip to the previous post in this topic. Skip to the next post in this topic. Ignore posts   QUOTE
i wasn't tryin to say that a party is the only place to meet people. there are tons of things you can do if you really wanna see some fresh faces. like take a class that none of your friends are in. if you want a way to interact with girls, see if your high school has a drama or acting class, all the lines are rehearsed, so it's not high pressure.

not saying that this is all you can do, but it's just an idea of one thing. even tho i don't really like some things, like clubs/parties i go to them anyway and hang out in the corner to watch people and see who approaches me. my point was that if you're shy and you want to be approached, just go out to places that people socialize a lot. there's bound to be someone there who's not shy who'll start a conversation.

------------------
kuru
'if your children ever found out how lame you are, they'd kill you in your sleep.' -frank zappa

Offline
Top of Page Profile Contact Info 
 Post Number: 10
brodie Search for posts by this member.
FNG
Avatar



Group: Members
Posts: 53
Joined: Sep. 2000
PostIcon Posted on: Sep. 15 2000,03:30 Skip to the previous post in this topic.  Ignore posts   QUOTE
ummm... yeah
i'm a college freshman with a gf. we've been going out for like 14 months or so. i love her and would never cheat or anything, but DAMN! if i didn't have a gf, i'd be in the money here. the first few months of college are girl heaven. all they want to do (no offense to females out there, most of these girls do) is "fool around" and have sex. i don't know if that's what you're into, but if you don't have a gf, you have the time of your life. don't get me wrong, without doing anything on the female side, i'm still having LOTS of fun getting drunk and such, but.... don't worry about a gf. especially once you get to college (or at least till sophomore year.... )

------------------
brodie
Now every face looks familiar
Then every face would melt away until now
Everyone, do you know?
I know your deception

Offline
Top of Page Profile Contact Info WEB 
12 replies since Sep. 13 2000,23:08 < Next Oldest | Next Newest >

[ Track This Topic :: Email This Topic :: Print this topic ]


Page 1 of 212>> 		reply to topic new topic new poll

» Quick Reply Not the best place, but...
iB Code Buttons
You are posting as:

Do you wish to enable your signature for this post?
Do you wish to enable emoticons for this post?
Track this topic
View All Emoticons
View iB Code