Topic: Why are females such bitches?
started by: Atepe
Posted by Atepe on May 20 2002,03:45
Me and this girl ... both care a lot about each other ... both are special to the other person. But when I ask her to go out with me she says "I don't want to do that because I don't want to hurt you." I can understand that. She knows I love her, I know she loves me, but if she really felt that way would she say what she did? I talked to her about it and she said to give her a couple days to think it over. That was last Thursday, I talked to her tonight, Sunday, and she fucking hung up on me.Her: Hello? Me: Hey Her: I'm going to bed I'll call you tomorrow okay? Bye ::Click::
What the fuck man!? I called her back and she got all put out that I would do such a hidious thing. I have no idea if she's mad or is just trying to avoid me. I don't think that's the case, but it's pretty fucked up. I told her I wanted to be with her and that I love her a lot and I think we'd be good together because we both care about each other, but she's being so immature about everything. I asked her if I should back off and she said no she didn't want me to. But she's really confusing me. I asked her what she wanted and that's when she said gimme a couple days to think it over. I'm thinking if the next conversation doesn't get us anywhere I'm just gonna give up on it. It's not worth all the shit I go through. I wonder what she thinks about all this, I was supossed to talk to her about it, like I said, but she fucking hung up on me. I think she's mad at me
Or she just plain ol' didn't wanna talk. Maybe I'm thinking too deep on this one.
Posted by editor on May 20 2002,09:57
... so give it a couple of days then.
Posted by ic0n0 on May 20 2002,10:27
umm i do not think they like being called bitchs.
Posted by damien_s_lucifer on May 20 2002,11:44
| Quote (editor @ 20 May 2002,01:57) |
| ... so give it a couple of days then. |
my thoughts exactly.
meanwhile, have you thought that she's undoubtably as confused and upset as you are? and that by pushing the issue you're making it worse for both of you?
patience is a virtue for a reason, my friend.
Posted by BlackFlag on May 20 2002,12:17
Walk away.If she runs after you, good.
If not, you have a head start in the right direction.
Posted by Wolfguard on May 20 2002,13:10
| Quote (ic0n0 @ 20 May 2002,05:27) |
| umm i do not think they like being called bitchs. |
how about boo boo kitty fuck?
Posted by Atepe on May 20 2002,13:50
| Quote (damien_s_lucifer @ 20 May 2002,03:44) |
| have you thought that she's undoubtably as confused and upset as you are? and that by pushing the issue you're making it worse for both of you? |
I HAVE Given it a couple of days and I'm positive she's as confused as I am, but still ... that doesn't mean we should just forget about the whole thing does it? If I walk away and "get a head start in the right direction" I know she wont run after me, she's not the type to do that. I think she wants to see me try at least. If I blow everything off and forget about it she'll probably be thinking 'Oh well, he didn't want me anyways' and that's not the case at all. And then she'd either be really sad or pissed off, one of the two, if not both. If she wants to be with me then awesome, if not then I guess that's allright, too. Either way I'm just waiting for her answer ... and I don't want to wait much longer. After last night I was sure she didn't think it a good idea because of her rude-ass behaviour, but then again that could have just been a case of PMS, I don't know. After sleeping on it I thought I'd call her tonight (If she doesn't call me first) and talk to her about this one more time. ONE more time.
Posted by liquid metal on May 20 2002,14:36
| Quote |
| stick it in her butt. she'll thank you later. |
</rhydant>
seriously if she doesn't know if she wants to go out w/ you or not, that means she doesn't want to! just let it go.
Posted by Beldurin on May 20 2002,15:40
| Quote (liquid metal @ 20 May 2002,08:36) | ||
</rhydant> seriously if she doesn't know if she wants to go out w/ you or not, that means she doesn't want to! just let it go. |
I resent that being credited to Rhydant...that's my tagline!! He quoted it from me!!
Posted by liquid metal on May 20 2002,18:29
| Quote (Beldurin @ 20 May 2002,10:40) | ||||
I resent that being credited to Rhydant...that's my tagline!! He quoted it from me!! |
he said it way before you!
Posted by BlackFlag on May 20 2002,19:29
If you've already waited a few days for her to make up her mind, and she hasn't yet, there's nothing left to do but drop it. Shit, I can almost hear the thoughts going through this girls jr. high school brittney spears generation-y ADD infected brain........ "Well, i love him, but i love [other person] too.... Jesus, im just so confused. Maybe if i wait long enough, one of them will go away and it will make things easier."Shit, you think there's some other possibility of why someone who you know loves you has to THINK ABOUT whether she wants to commit to a relationship with you?! Like i said, walk away. Make things easier for both of you.
Posted by ic0n0 on May 20 2002,20:04
Remember nothing says loving like ass sex!
Posted by Necromancer on May 20 2002,22:15
"how bout you be a man, take a chance and go up to her, grab her and give a good snog. 50/50 either you get a slap or you get to be with her for 10 years."the wise words of the french, a.k.a luc bessons - taxi
Posted by Beldurin on May 21 2002,00:21
| Quote (liquid metal @ 20 May 2002,12:29) |
| he said it way before you! |
bullshit, Walter
My full quote was: "Bend her over the couch and stick it in her butt...she'll thank you for it later."
I believe Rhydant (or someone, can't remember exactly who) put it in his sig for a while, but he got it from me...and I'll have words with any man who says otherwise.
-_* (gunslinger squint)
Posted by Atepe on May 21 2002,01:48
| Quote (BlackFlag @ 20 May 2002,11:29) |
| If you've already waited a few days for her to make up her mind, and she hasn't yet, there's nothing left to do but drop it. Shit, I can almost hear the thoughts going through this girls jr. high school brittney spears generation-y ADD infected brain........ "Well, i love him, but i love [other person] too.... Jesus, im just so confused. Maybe if i wait long enough, one of them will go away and it will make things easier." Shit, you think there's some other possibility of why someone who you know loves you has to THINK ABOUT whether she wants to commit to a relationship with you?! Like i said, walk away. Make things easier for both of you. |
It's funny you said that man - that's a perfect discription of her stuck-up no-logic-usin immature brain. Sorry for taking up space on this forum for yet another pointless problem with an ovious solution. I'm done. Fuck her. But back to my original question ... why are they such bitches? Can't they just be honest? What the fuck.
Posted by Atepe on May 21 2002,03:46
Also she aint a Jr. High schooler. She's a sophmore at a Catholic school (which probably explains everything)
Posted by Nikita on May 21 2002,04:03
| Quote (Atepe @ 20 May 2002,20:48) |
| But back to my original question ... why are they such bitches? Can't they just be honest? What the fuck. |
because they "don't want to hurt your feelings" ? I know, lame.
some guys do that too.
Posted by Jimi on May 21 2002,12:56
Honesty... Right I can do that.Nikita I... Nikita I love y...
OK I'm just going to say this straight up!
NIKITA I LOVE YOUR POSTS!
There I said it.
Posted by CycleLady on May 21 2002,19:47
Wow, the responses on this thread
Cha
I'm a female. Does that mean I'm a bitch, Atepe?
CycleLady
Posted by demonk on May 21 2002,20:15
Every woman gets a chance to prove she isn't a bitch. If she can't, then the default view of her as a bitch stands.
Posted by CycleLady on May 21 2002,21:20
| Quote (demonk @ 21 May 2002,14:15) |
| Every woman gets a chance to prove she isn't a bitch. If she can't, then the default view of her as a bitch stands. |
Soooo... I take it your view, demonk, is a vote for guilty until proven innocent.
What are the characteristics of a female who is not a "bitch?"
Posted by demonk on May 21 2002,21:40
I was only joking. I do view most women as being nice people by default. There are a few that you can just look at and they scream "Stuck up, self absorbed bitch", but those are few and easy to spot.Basicly, what makes a woman a non-bitch is the same things that makes anyone a good person. She needs to be able to see beyond just her needs and wants to see how her actions are/could effect other people's lives. That's the biggest one. Then being honest, both with herself and others, also helps. Of course, she has to be able to give and recieve complements/gifts/quality time without a bunch of emotional hang ups. Not everyone can be Mother Terasa, but that is no excuss for not trying to be a nice person who loves herself and can care about others.
If you can't tell, I just got burned by a woman. She was my gf for almost 4 years, and just recently cheated on me and then left me. Of course, hindsight has perfect vision and I can now see that she isn't capable of being in a healthy relationship (of course, I had my own problems but I'm dealing with those and will be a much better person/partner). I'll just leave it at that so as not to degenerate into a bitching session about my ex.
Posted by CycleLady on May 21 2002,21:50
| Quote (demonk @ 21 May 2002,15:40) |
| If you can't tell, I just got burned by a woman. She was my gf for almost 4 years, and just recently cheated on me and then left me. Of course, hindsight has perfect vision and I can now see that she isn't capable of being in a healthy relationship (of course, I had my own problems but I'm dealing with those and will be a much better person/partner). I'll just leave it at that so as not to degenerate into a bitching session about my ex. |
I'm sorry, demonk. I know that had to hurt. No one likes being betrayed.
As you already said, you learned and will be a better person going into the next relationship. Glad to see you still have your spunk after being burnt.
Posted by demonk on May 22 2002,01:05
Well, it's been over a month, and I've gotten better than I have ever been in my entire life. But for the first month after, I was pretty bad. She broke up with me over the phone from Korea where she is on a study abroad program, so I think I was entitled to be a little bitter and depressed. But I'm better now.
Posted by editor on May 22 2002,01:36
What is "snogging"?
Posted by CycleLady on May 22 2002,02:44
| Quote (demonk @ 21 May 2002,19:05) |
| Well, it's been over a month, and I've gotten better than I have ever been in my entire life. But for the first month after, I was pretty bad. She broke up with me over the phone from Korea where she is on a study abroad program, so I think I was entitled to be a little bitter and depressed. But I'm better now. |
Hey, you need to mourn the loss. I think it's healthy to be bitter and depressed after such an event. Glad to hear you're feeling better now. Onward and upward, eh? You're doing great
Posted by CycleLady on May 22 2002,02:55
| Quote (editor @ 21 May 2002,19:36) |
| What is "snogging"? |
British slang for french kissing
contrasting with the work "snerg" which is actually two elephants attached at the trunk
Posted by Beastie Dr on May 22 2002,03:05
| Quote (Wolfguard @ 20 May 2002,07:10) | ||
how about boo boo kitty fuck? |
Wolfy, that just made my day
Posted by Wolfguard on May 22 2002,14:47
dont than me, Thank Jay and Silent Bob
Posted by kuru on May 22 2002,23:21
| Quote (Wolfguard @ 20 May 2002,08:10) | ||
how about boo boo kitty fuck? |
Perfect.
And as for why chicks are bitches...... cause they get away with it.
I'm all for 'guilty until proven innocent.' However, guys are assholes for exactly the same reason and they get equal opportunity to prove they are 'good guys.'
Posted by demonk on May 22 2002,23:35
| Quote (kuru @ 22 May 2002,15:21) |
| And as for why chicks are bitches...... cause they get away with it. |
You hit it right on the head kuru!
Attention all males of detnet:
NEVER, NO MATTER THE SITUATION, ALLOW A WOMAN YOU KNOW TO GET AWAY WITH ACTING LIKE A BITCH!!!!
People are like puppies. If they piss on the floor and you give them a treat (or just ignore it), they'll keep pissing on the floor! So, if we don't let the women around us get away with it, sooner or later they will stop acting like bitches!!!
Now, if only we could hit them on the nose with rolled up newspapers, this would go a lot quicker
Posted by editor on May 23 2002,04:20
damnshit I thought you were Nikita for a second.
Posted by demonk on May 23 2002,06:24
Fine, fine, fine. I've changed my avatar. Everyone happy?
Posted by Nikita on May 23 2002,15:50
| Quote (editor @ 22 May 2002,23:20) |
| damnshit I thought you were Nikita for a second. |
damnshit, I thought I posted that last night (before avatar change). Was starting to think that 1 mudslide did me in farther than I thought!
Posted by Wiley on May 24 2002,01:34
Atepe,I'll quote Chris Rock here, "You're the in case of emergency break glass dick"
I hate to point that out to you, but at least know that the mojority of guys who are not the player type have been there. You give her all the emotial support of a boyfriend and she doesn't have to sleep with you ..she just dangles her sexuality on a string in front of you to keep you interested while she plays the field. When she gets played ...well then there you are waiting in the wings to nuture her back to good spirits ...so she can then go out with another dude. When she's lonely she calls you and talks your ear off, but when she's got a dude then she doesn't have time for you right? If she was into you then you'd already be together
Just get rid of her ..or better yet hook up with her when she's vunerable and then get rid of her. At least then you'll get a chance to be with her once before moving on.
YOU have to get something out of the relationship too.
This is why assholes get more women ...they don't waste time with the ones who don't just jump into bed with them. When once asked why I wanted to rush into the sex thing (on a second date) and I answered "if I weren't out with you right now I'd be getting myself off and watching a better movie, I need to know there is hope in salvaging this date".
Posted by kuru on May 24 2002,19:41
Wiley seems to understand why I like to fuck on the second date. Or the first if the dude's really hot.
Posted by Wiley on May 24 2002,23:37
Yeah, I never understand why some women don't get it. I gotta be all "I asked you out because I want to sleep with you ...I could be out not sleeping with anybody right now. It's not like I just like watching you eat and sit through a movie that I'm paying for. Do you think I looked at you across a bar and said to myself I wonder what she's like in conversation. Maybe we will hit it off and maybe we won't, but that doesn't mean we can't be screwing right now."The best thing I learned was to never try and figure out women ...I know what I want and that's good enough for me.
Posted by Atepe on May 25 2002,17:42
| Quote (Wiley @ 23 May 2002,17:34) |
| Atepe, I'll quote Chris Rock here, "You're the in case of emergency break glass dick" |
When did he say that? In stand up? Which one?
Posted by Atepe on May 25 2002,20:09
| Quote (CycleLady @ 21 May 2002,11:47) |
| I'm a female. Does that mean I'm a bitch, Atepe? CycleLady |
Yes, yes it does. Sorry, sometimes the truth hurts.
Posted by Wiley on May 26 2002,02:45
| Quote (Atepe @ 25 May 2002,09:42) |
| When did he say that? In stand up? Which one? |
Yeah, I used to have an mp3 of it ...I'll see if I can dig it up. It's all about how girls always have a guy friend that's like a boyfriend, but they're not sleeping with him. They keep him around just in case.
< Here is the mp3 >
Posted by kuru on May 27 2002,23:10
Bah, chicks. Who needs 'em?
Posted by demonk on May 27 2002,23:33
Us straight men and all those bi/les girls.
Posted by Beldurin on May 28 2002,04:27
| Quote (kuru @ 27 May 2002,17:10) |
| Bah, chicks. Who needs 'em? |
me. several of them preferably.
Posted by editor on May 28 2002,04:29
... Russian ones are the best.
Posted by demonk on May 28 2002,04:42
Care to enlighten us editor? Or do we just have to use our fithly imagination?
Posted by Beldurin on May 28 2002,04:44
| Quote (demonk @ 27 May 2002,22:42) |
| Care to enlighten us editor? Or do we just have to use our fithly imagination? |
Ed shops by mail a lot...
