Topic: I need a drink.
started by: Uberkommando
Posted by Uberkommando on Mar. 24 2002,01:56
Okay, I usually try to avoid going on rants around here, but this new red color scheme is making me feel a little risky.I live in Oklahoma, my (ex) girlfriend lives in Germany. It seems a little wierd since we're both still in high school, but I honest to God love her. I've managed to get a system worked out so that we get to stay with each other for a week every 3 months or less. I figured that I was going to be the first one to freak and decide that there was too much distance; I was wrong.
On my most recent visit, which I got back from about two hours ago, she said that it was too hard to be that far apart. Now that kind of stung, because I didn't actually see it coming -- I was sure that she was going to be okay with the distance.
The thing that's killing me is that we still love each other. She knows it, I know it, but she just can't stand to not have me around. So... couldn't she have just stayed with me? (I know yall might say it, so: it wasn't a let-me-down-slowly line. trust me.)
She's still coming to see me in 3 months. She's already got her ticket.
I honestly don't know where I'm going with this. Just kinda have to get it out of my system.
I guess I'll just end it on this: Everybody says that high-school dating is just to find out what kind of people you like. Well, if you accidentally happened to find that person, you love each other, but unavoidable factors tear you apart -- what then? Should I just look around here in Oklahoma and 'settle for less'? The only reason I'd consider dating someone from here is because I'd be really horny, and I have the internet for that.
edit: What the hell, here's a < picture of us >, taken last night.
Posted by Spydir on Mar. 24 2002,04:20
she's cute.I'm not going to give you any advice, because I understand what you're going through. All I'm gonna say is that you should hope that when she comes to visit you the distance only made the love grow stronger, and that maybe you both will figure something out so it's all fixed.
Posted by editor on Mar. 24 2002,04:35
Excellent, Mr Spydir.Know German?
One of you is going to have to move!
Go for it!!!
Posted by Uberkommando on Mar. 25 2002,01:43
Thanks spydir; that actually helps me out quite a bit. She called today, and she's taking it pretty rough, too. Who knows? There's still hope, somehow.
Posted by Spydir on Mar. 25 2002,02:01
holy fuck. I helped someone!
Posted by editor on Mar. 25 2002,03:58
Editor blesses you, my son. Go out into the world and spread your good will.
Go out to the four corners of Earth and proclaim the goodness that is Detnet.
"that is all"
Posted by Jynx on Mar. 25 2002,21:30
Do not settle for less.If you do, then in 10 years you will look over at your wife who you like, but in your heart of hearts not love. Every time you have sex (not make love) with her, you will think of what you missed out on. Every time she goads you into saying that you love her and only her, the lie will invisibly stain your tongue and leave a bitter aftertaste in your mouth that no amount of hard liquor can erase. You will then begin one of two courses: you will begin to argue, which will lead to a breakup, alimony, and messed up kids, or you will take it for another 10 years until you go crazy and kill yourself and/or her.
If this chick lets you, stick with her through the long distance until you two either move together or break up for a real reason.
Do not, I repeat, DO NOT get engaged to her until, say, 25.
Well, there's my $0.02, take it or leave it as you wish.
Posted by Uberkommando on Mar. 25 2002,21:59
Again, thanks for the good advice. I looked around school today, and noticed that after going out with her, all the girls here look absolutely repulsive. I honestly felt sick by their presence. I felt horrible even considering going out with any of them. I need another drink.
Posted by ic0n0 on Mar. 25 2002,22:24
Drink more!
Posted by Uberkommando on Mar. 28 2002,03:08
Always a brilliant alternative, icono. Keeping myself in a half-dazed stupor seems to be keeping me from drowning in a pool of self-pity, for the moment at least.Unfortunately, drinking laws being as they are, I'll have to stick to Family Guy reruns and coding PHP. That should keep my mind fuzzy enough to avoid a collapse.
Posted by ic0n0 on Mar. 28 2002,04:23
Drink more!
Posted by Vigilante on Mar. 28 2002,05:13
If she does make it over in July (oklahoma in the dead of summer, poor girl), you've probably got a chance. Good luck with not snapping between now and then.However, from my experience, she'll cancel the trip before two months are past. Then you'll know it's over.
As for finding The One, there is simply no answer to that. Fortune is a fickle mistress. If she ain't it, you will love again; it just may take so long that by the time you do, you'll have become so emotionally crippled that it'll go nowhere or you'll simply blow it. So, chin up, stiff upper lip and all that.
Posted by editor on Mar. 28 2002,05:16
ic0n0, we know you have issues.We remember that.
If you step on other peoples' issues,you will be perceived poorly.
That guy expressed a bit of pain. If you get in the way of that...
Posted by Uberkommando on Mar. 28 2002,05:24
Thanks, ed.Meanwhile, she's not cancelling the trip anytime soon. She'll be in the states for an entire month, and a week of that is over here with me. She's already paid her $250 for the flight, so I think she's definitely coming. Guess I'll just have to hold out until then.
Posted by editor on Mar. 28 2002,05:31
sorry, Vigi, just read your post completely. Are you British or something?
Posted by Vigilante on Mar. 28 2002,06:04
No, but Giles is my favorite character on Buffy the Vampire Slayer. 
Posted by ic0n0 on Mar. 28 2002,17:02
What i said was a joke. I didn't really expect or want anyone to drink more, it just seemed like a silly thing to say. Although i do not drink i think it is amusing to watch people who normally don't get drunk. I did not mean to be ofensive to people who have alcoholic tendencies or to poke fun at people with low tolarance for it. so 