Forum: Rants Topic: Kidnapping my ass! started by: solid Posted by solid on Apr. 17 2001,23:34
Oh no.. not again... another one of solid's rants regarding his family.. here goes:In order to get a join custody between my parents, my dad gave in his passport so that my mom wouldn't fear that he'd "Kidnap" me. (But how stupid is that? I'm pretty much 15, and it's not like he's gonna but me in a garbage bag and swipe me over the airport) Now my dad has a meeting in the states, and he needs his passport. So he just takes it, and tells the court "do what you want to do". And now my uncle came to my place yesterday, after calling about 3 times, after my mom called once, all saying that the join custody is over, hand over the kid. So anyhow I'm talking on the buzzer with my uncle downstairs, and he threatens to bring in cops to arrest my dad (again, did the same thing 2 years ago) and I tell him not to threaten me, that I go where I please, and then I told him to go home. Today, my dad's lawyer calls up and tells my dad that if I don't go back to my mom's place there will be an "emergency motion" for court and another trial will start. Now I'm pissed. I can't be kidnapped, no joke. It's just stupid for my mom to say that- and she's always commiting slander against my dad talking about him (in the worst forms too). Now what I'm REALLY pissed off at is that with lies like these, I can pretty much be controlled to go anywhere my mom wants. Of course, when I get home I'll be giving everyone there a good 2-5 hours of verbal abuse, mad rages, aggresive sides, and incredibly vulgar swearing. And I mean, what the hell? They're fighting over my custody, and what say do I get in this? I don't WANT to fucking get back to my moms place, because all I get there is depression!... jeez.. what justice.. a little conspiracy my mom makes and they have to take all these false "precautions".. i can't even see my own dad.. how pathetic. Posted by Vigilante on Apr. 18 2001,00:28
Custody battles are always such bullshit... There's certainly nothing you can directly accomplish through the legal system. Maybe you can get something done by going through a secondary agency, social services or the canuck equivalent.
Posted by T-bone on Apr. 18 2001,11:07
Yeah, our legal system is crap, worse than anarchy...That was what communism tried to achieve, a society where nobody is in charge, but everyone just works for the betterment of the population, of course, that'll never work, 'cause the leaders who are in charge right now, will not want to give up their power... The judicial system right now is the shits, what with cops arresting 16 years olds for dealing pot, and then putting them in jail, where they get educated about crime, and when they come out, they're master criminals, all because of a little grass deal. It's ludicrous. tbone Posted by Spydir Web on Apr. 20 2001,18:09
just go to court and say you don't want to go to either parents house, and say because you feel both places are a hostile environment. Work it so you stay at a family member on your dad's side place. Wait a while, have your dad visit every so often, and say you want to go to your dad's and if your mom continues you will disown her as your mother. I've seen it work a couple times, and the only time I didn't is because the kid was a burnt out crackhead and didn't know how to work it right.------------------ Posted by solid on Apr. 20 2001,23:55
heh, actually spider thats what i planned on doing.. didnt think itd work very well.. who knows?
Posted by solid on Apr. 21 2001,01:27
We can all emphasize how my situation here sucks. Of course it doesn't make a big difference except get some of the pressure off of my chest.I'm going to make an assumption that some of you here have been in much worse situation, but even still- this is so far the worst experience I've had in my life so far. What I hate is having to bear with how everyone here is trying to get me on sides. And even thinking that they're trying to get me on sides is because my mom keeps telling me that's what my dad's trying to do. I could start right now about how wrong she is, and how crazy she is- but it just won't matter. I hate this, and if this continues... nope, I'm pretty helpless. The best thing that can happen to me right now is that I break, either literally kill my parents, or I just break during school and start screaming at everyone and trying to hurt as many people as possible. Not that I'd be using guns, trying to pull off a columbine, that's stupid. But I still don't understand after so many years of being told that the people who try NOT to be bad people STILL get in so much shit. Sure, life's unfair, but still, why the fuck am I pissed?!.. err.. ok.. well i cracked my door now my moms lecture is finished.. ... feels a little better... i dont wanna go insane but its a little bit later, and ... damn my back is sweaty.. anyhow my hand hurts...
This message has been edited by solid on April 21, 2001 at 08:32 PM Posted by WillyPete on Apr. 24 2001,14:08
Sorry to hear about your situation: pretty fucked up.Here's another one though. You mentioned the abuse towards you after you expressed a desire to stay at your dad's. In the legal scenario, the battle for custody is always one in which one parent trys to show that the other is not suitable as a parent. Most times just to hurt the other parent by casting doubt on their character. Next time you get abused like that, verbally or otherwise, tape it. Get a dicta-memo-thingy and record it. When you are back at the other parent's house and the abusive parent calls you, play it back to them and then warn them that if it occurs again, this will be used as evidence against them in the continuing custody battle. Then state that you are recording the present phone conversation and CLEARLY and UNEMOTIONALLY express your desire to stay there and not go to their house. Ask them if they understood what you said. Even if you didn't record it, clearly spoken legalese over the phone usually scares someone who has something to lose. Posted by Wolfguard on Apr. 24 2001,15:08
Here in the states he should answer the phone with"This call is being recorded, this is "Solid" how may i help you" to realy make them nervous, start every face to face conversation the same way. "This conversation is being recorded, hi mom..." ------------------ Posted by solid on Apr. 24 2001,15:12
Oh ... damn.. I did record the call when my uncle called up from downstairs.. he didn't know though.Thanks for the precaution.. btw my last post in this thread, sorry about all that crazy shit.. i was really out of it Posted by SLATE on May 09 2001,01:45
in some states its legal to record a convo without the other person knowing... In new jersey, only 1 of the people talking has to know.. the other doesn't.. thats the law
Posted by Sithiee on May 09 2001,01:49
remind me not to talk to people in nj.
Posted by SLATE on May 09 2001,03:42
quote: fool.... Posted by Wolfguard on May 09 2001,11:18
quote: Never talk to people in NJ ------------------ Posted by Sithiee on May 09 2001,16:38
thanks wg....but it would be more helpful once im in nj...
Posted by Wolfguard on May 10 2001,13:54
never go to NJ.If you have to bring the biohazard suit. Once there Dont talk to anyone. ------------------ Posted by Sithiee on May 10 2001,16:47
might be going to school there....im afraid ill probably have to talk to people....damn NJers and their inferiority complex.
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