Forum: Rants
Topic: What the fuck is wrong with me!
started by: ic0n0
Posted by ic0n0 on Mar. 07 2001,19:22
I am attracted to women and have hit on many but I never get a positive signal from them at all, I count many women as close friends but they never want to be more than friends, I have never even really had a girlfriend ah what the fuck is wrong with me! Why don’t women like me, I am a nice sensitive guy and I am after more than sex, for real I want a real relationship. And commitment and intimacy I am not afraid of. Maybe I should become a priest or something then this wouldn’t be an issue, but that whole atheist thing is a problem. This is the #1 problem in my life, the fact women aren’t attracted to me is emotionally damaging, and my self-image is pretty fucking low after so many rejections.
If I don’t find a woman who is attracted to me soon I am going to give up and be a hermit.
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Posted by solid on Mar. 07 2001,22:05
Ditto, `cept a few things are different.
Maybe it's the age group your in. And aside from that women aren't exactly.. looking for a sensitive guy.. you know.. at least that's what I came up with.
Posted by melk0r on Mar. 07 2001,22:55
i find the same problem AS WELL.. i guess you dont want other problems, you want answers, but here you have it. i have several friends that are girls, and i watch as they like every single guy that gives them the time of day, and they wont even look twice at me. i am sensitive.. im handsome, but not like sexy.. so i think they can say "sensitive this, sensitive that" all they want, but when they truly like someone for who they are (which rarely happens, its like 75\% physical) then i will not consider them as hypocrites.
Posted by Dark Knight Bob on Mar. 08 2001,00:03
are you in uni yet? trust me thats the best place for getting gurls for whatever your needs are they just run about everywhere.don't worry about trying to go out looking for them as you'll probably end up giving off the wrong vibes just put yourself in lots of places cos sitting on yo butt all day didnt work for me. it makes sense really i mean statistically the more places you go to the more chance you have of just meeting people.
Posted by solid on Mar. 08 2001,01:20
Well.. for those of us who aren't in uni (either high school or.. ..... high school =p) It's pretty obvious they'll do anything for the cute guys. Considering how in junior high school most of them were probably all over those idiots in pop bands and stuff.
Posted by fire_502 on Mar. 08 2001,01:51
be confident around girls. if you don't feel confident, pretend you are. no one wants to date a wishy washy guy. and don't discount those platonic friends. i never understood the whole asking-out-strangers thing. every guy i have ever fallen for has been a really really good friend before i even thought about dating them...but maybe that's where i need a guy's opinion, because that has not exactly been working out well for me lately.
Posted by damien_s_lucifer on Mar. 08 2001,07:15
I know how you feel, ic0n0. Sometimes I feel like I must be damn ugly, because girls don't seem to want to jump in bed with me. But then I see guys who don't look like anything special with outrageously beautiful women, and I wonder if it's not my looks but my personality... and so on. It's horrible.Right now, the real problem is probably that you want something deeper and more meaningful than most girls want. Look- as a general rule, men are the romantics. Women are more practical. From what I've gathered from many years of complaining to my female friends, a lot of times the way a woman picks who she's in a relationship with has less to do with love than what she thinks she can get from the relationship. It's later on, when women become more independent, that they start really wanting a man who is nice and sensitive and loyal. And having a woman count you as "close friends" is more of a compliment than you realize (I forget it a lot of times, too  ). Again, women are more practical than us men - if you don't force them by being a prick, they won't sleep with you not because they don't think you wonderful, but because they do. It's their way of making sure the thing they have with you doesn't go away in a couple months. For now, I'd suggest going to these close women friends and ask for their help in making you look cute. They WILL help you, and unlike most male friends they'll understand that you're lonely and want a girlfriend and that that is ok.
Posted by Wolfguard on Mar. 08 2001,11:18
maybe ic0n0 keeps triggering the ladies gadar and they want straight men...------------------
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Posted by fatbitch on Mar. 09 2001,03:57
"Why don’t women like me, I am a nice sensitive guy and I am after more than sex, for real I want a real relationship."you answered your own question there! as damien said, men are the romantics  and wolfguard... that was pretty harsh
Posted by luth13n on Mar. 09 2001,04:18
Oh, come on, guys, by saying that all women are just after sex and men are the "real romantics," you're as bad as the women who claim that all that men are after is sex.
I know the former isn't true. Hopefully the latter isn't either.
Posted by Psychosomatic_plague on Mar. 09 2001,04:21
sex what? no don't be silly nobody wants to have sex, that is just an urban legend. ------------------
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Posted by fatbitch on Mar. 09 2001,11:57
quote:
Originally posted by luth13n:
Oh, come on, guys, by saying that all women are just after sex and men are the "real romantics," you're as bad as the women who claim that all that men are after is sex.
I know the former isn't true. Hopefully the latter isn't either.
i didnt say women are all about sex, i didnt say that at all. what i was saying (and damien etc) that they use men as tools without really feeling much until they want to. guys tend to fall quicker which (imo) is more romantic. females seem to be so calculated about their emotions and shit its scary
Posted by cr0bar on Mar. 09 2001,14:55
fatbitch has got it all figured out.Kill the messenger!
Posted by luth13n on Mar. 09 2001,17:51
quote:
Originally posted by Psychosomatic_plague:
sex what? no don't be silly nobody wants to have sex, that is just an urban legend.
Oh, come on, you know what I mean. Obviously everyone wants to have sex. I'm just saying hopefully some people base relationships on something in addition to that.
Posted by solid on Mar. 10 2001,03:49
But what can we do to fix it.
Posted by demonk on Mar. 10 2001,06:39
Girls, and most women for that matter, don't realy know what they want. They just stubble through life striving for whatever they want a that momment. Of course, men are any better, so I guess no one really knows what they want. So I say when you do figure out what you want, never let go of it and never let anyone stand in your way of achieving it.
Posted by fatbitch on Mar. 10 2001,08:22
well i dont know about the type of guysx at that pub fire, but i would NEVER do that
Posted by fire_502 on Mar. 10 2001,17:18
no, i definately think you guys are calculating. when you refuse to play pool because you suck at it, and a guy talks you into it anyway, and then grills you on what you are *playing for* i tend to think there is calculating there. so maybe we don't have a choice but to beat you at your own game so to speak...it's awlays nice to have the upper hand. but i just came from the bar so i don't know.
Posted by fire_502 on Mar. 11 2001,13:57
it's not so much as the guys at that bar as it's the guys at this school. we have a 4:1 male:female ratio so the guys are always after what they can get, then get moody when they don't get it. you learn to deal with it. but this is such a small campus that when you do indulge them, you see them everywhere and not to mention half the people you know would see you talking to the guy in the first place and rumors grow from there. i'm sure there's probably noncalculating guys here, but they don't leave their computers long enough to go out to the bars...and there's NOTHING else to do here.
Posted by Wolfguard on Mar. 11 2001,14:48
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Originally posted by fatbitch:
and wolfguard... that was pretty harsh
That was the lite version. if you think that was harsh you should hear what comes out that never makes it to the submit button ------------------
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Posted by hair on Mar. 12 2001,03:21
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Originally posted by Sithiee:
quite lovely...
haha, thats hilarious. sounds like some people i know... they feel a great need for attention.
Posted by Sithiee on Mar. 12 2001,05:05
wow, maybe youre as lude as the richter....i dunno, hes hard to match...today he was saying how our physics teacher's forehead was red because hed been smacking it with his penis all day....quite lovely...
Posted by Greasemonk on Mar. 13 2001,10:33
Comon man. All you need is a little piece of confidence and a sense of humor. Take the lead singer of the black crowes for example. He is fucking buttugly as hell and must weigh only 80 lbs and look who he is married to. Look around next time you are out. I would say about 85\% of the chics i see with guys, the guys are either ugly as fuck, going bald and arent doing anything with it, or they are at least a foot shorter than the chic. I guess either some people arent picky or they are just happy and content with what they can get. ------------------
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Posted by WillyPete on Mar. 14 2001,14:56
Think of what you're up against in American High Schools. You guys are inundated with teenybopper daytime shows and soaps that would lead any girl to think that the only acceptable male is either the quarterback or the 'wierd but creative' guy. Shit, what chance do you normal guys have? We're just the 'extras' in the background. But give it time - those girls graduate and start to think for themselves in Uni and see that good friends are actually happy being married to/dating Mr. Normal. They soon realise that there's not that many Quarterbacks anymore and that you have to be desire-on-two-legs for the QB to even glance at them. And Mr 'wierd but creative': Forget him - they find out that he's just unstable with too much baggage. It'll soon sink in that Mr. Normal's the best to have fun with and he's always there.
Chill.
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