Forum: Rants Topic: Faggot started by: Anztac Posted by Anztac on May 22 2000,19:06
Do you guys know where faggot came from? Faggot means ciggerete (if I spelled it right) you know the thing you smoke. When the Third Reich burned homo-sexuals the soldiers started calling them faggots, or ciggeretes. Now will people stop saying faggot. Please.------------------ "I am easily driven into a flying rage by blithering idiots" Posted by Kolben on May 22 2000,20:29
No they won't!
Posted by Hellraiser on May 22 2000,22:23
Actually, the word faggot means a piece of wood, or a bundle of sticks or straw that is meant for burning. It's been a part of the English language for hundreds of years before the first cigarettes were smoked.
Posted by Anztac on May 22 2000,22:30
Really? thanks Hellraiser. Well it makes even more sense now. "lets put another faggot on the fire" hmm..------------------ "I am easily driven into a flying rage by blithering idiots" Posted by AnimalPrime on May 23 2000,19:31
Do we really need to disect this one? FAGS are FAGS..i dont really care where the name came from; They are just all around not cool!------------------ [This message has been edited by AnimalPrime (edited May 23, 2000).] Posted by Bob_Cannibal on May 23 2000,21:42
GORK! ARRRRGH! MUST RESIST URGE TO GIVE A RATS ASS!!!!!! nnnnARGH!!!! shutup shutup SHUTUP!!!!*beep beep* level 5 class supernova flame aborted. have a nice day. ------------------ Posted by simulacrum on May 23 2000,21:44
Warning: Flame suppression unit activated.AnimalPrime, I sure the hell hope you are wearing flame retardant clothing, because you just set yourself up. Posted by Proteun on May 24 2000,05:35
This is the way I see it, Faggot means a bundle of sticks, a penis could be reffered to as a stick, so to cocks together become a bundle, so we've nicknamed homos faggots.------------------ Posted by incubus on May 24 2000,09:05
lol. One of my m8s is gay and gets shit for it all the time. His best comeback was the other day, to some redneck twat taking the piss out of him,I'm more man than you are, and more woman than you'll ever get! lol the offending nazi had no comeback ------------------ Posted by AnimalPrime on May 24 2000,18:45
flame retardant, HA, dont need it guys, u best bring kryptonite! and i still think fags r really not cool at all.and that fag-tastic come back is from the bird cage ....see fags just dont get it!!! its not cool..that was a shitty movie too [This message has been edited by AnimalPrime (edited May 24, 2000).] Posted by Wolfguard on May 25 2000,08:26
me thinks that AP protests to much...Someone a bit TO homophobic? Is someone stuck in the closet with his feelings? Having some feelings for someone of the same sex there AP and just cant deal with it? Get over it! Its not your life its theirs. Just shut your red neck mouth and look the other way. ------------------ Posted by Hellraiser on May 25 2000,09:22
Judge not that ye be not judged, AP. Just because you don't like or disapprove of someone's life style, there is still no reason to look down on them for it, there are probably some aspects of your own lifestyle that we would disapprove of. Homophobia and gay-bashing are rather nonproductive, and make you look a bit foolish. Now things like companies that screw you over and people who misuse words are worth ranting against.------------------ Posted by Lizzy on May 25 2000,13:10
Judge not lest ye be judged. (I think)
Posted by jim on May 25 2000,13:27
I could care less if you are a 'pillow biter' or not. JUST DON'T FUCKING TALK TO ME!!!! If you want to go off licking hairy asses I don't want to know about it.It should be don't ask, don't tell in society, not just the military. It's not natural, it's sick, twisted, and disgusting... Unless of course we are talking about chicks?? Mmmmmmm..... ------------------ Posted by AnimalPrime on May 25 2000,14:40
I think u guys may have misunderstood my comments, and thats prolly my fault. All Ireally ment to say was that I didn’t particularly like the whole idea of homosexuality, it really isn’t natural. I did want to come across as a gay basher or anything like that. Oh and it got a rise out of you guys so it wasn’t all bad. I found it kind of funny actual. For jim, you suck!!!!!! HOPE U GET FLAMED WORSE THEN ME!! And dont call me a fucking red neck!! ------------------ Posted by simulacrum on May 25 2000,14:48
Everyone is entitle to their own point of view and thoughs. Thoughts on this subject should generally be kept to ones self, especially if you disapprove of the lifestyle at hand. Personally, I do not make friends with people of limited frame of mind, and I look down greatly on those who can't accept a lifestyle other than their own. It just shows me how shallow the person and scared of what they can't understand. Posted by Hellraiser on May 26 2000,05:38
I'm with you there (for once) simulacrum. And that quote from Matthew 7:1 depends largely on what translation of the Bible you have. No matter how you word it, the principle is the same. If we judge others for their deeds, we leave ourselves open to judgment by others. I would hate to be on a jury, because I don't think I would do well at it at all. No problem AP, just it would be best to think twice before posting comments of that nature in the future if you don't want to be flamed. ------------------ Posted by AnimalPrime on May 27 2000,14:43
I dont really care about being flamed by people i dont know....and that are by there own admission...133t hax0rs.....not that im judgeing or anything
Posted by fendi on May 31 2000,19:56
Going back to faggots:Back before my day, faggots was used as a term for the "new" (lower levels, young 'uns) boys coming into some sort of a boarding school. These boys were given the job of errand boys for the more senior guys. They would be at their beck and call and also under their discipline. So in this context, to "fag" for someone means to be under that someone's errand boy. I picked all this up reading one book or the other so it is mostly my impressions and memories. To hell with it that my memory is like a seive ;) *sigh* good thing my boss is away today... *tiptoes quietly away* Posted by jim on May 31 2000,22:20
Faggots take their COCK, and stick it up a hairy guys ASS! There is nothing mysterious about this. It's freaking nasty, it's un-natural, it's wrong in OH so many ways....Judge on, my brothers!!! I'm the type who speaks my mind, and if other want to talk about/judge me or whatever. Be my guest. I bet I get my 8 hours of sleep everynight. Ugh. that just makes my stomach churn... nasty mother fuckers!!! ------------------ Posted by jim on May 31 2000,22:23
quote: OK, so why do I suck??? If you are defending fags, then YOU, are the one doing some serious sucking... And who the hell called you a redneck???? You guys can call me one if you'd like. I'm not, but I'm from Texas!!! ------------------ Posted by Ansible on Jun. 02 2000,08:25
quote: I couldn't agree more. I just don't care. But stay the fuck away from me. Posted by TonyDennis on Jun. 03 2000,04:46
I also agree. I don't want to know anything about it unless we're talking about lesbians, then you can be as graphic as possible ;)-Tony ------------------ [This message has been edited by TonyDennis (edited June 02, 2000).] Posted by Sithiee on Jun. 03 2000,06:27
Personally, i couldnt care less if someone was gay or not, as long as they arent hitting on me, who cares? The one thing that gets on my nerves are all the gay people who are like "Look at me! Look at me! Im gay!!!!" like its some huge deal. I dont give a fuck. i mean jeez I dont go around yelling out in the streets "i love large breasted women. I love hot girls. Look at me! Look at me!"...so why do they do it?...and to the homophobes...thats just not cool, if you dont like it, keep it to yourself
Posted by Teflon on Jun. 03 2000,13:17
Personally I don't really care if someone is gay or not. But gay-bashers piss the fucking shit out of me.
Posted by The_Hiro on Jun. 10 2000,04:11
Homosexuality unnatural and sick? What sort of arguments do you have to support your claim? If it's some variant of the 'they're not like us' argument, then perhaps you ought to rethink your position (I don't need to explain why this is wrong). If you're going to argue that it's unnatural on the basis of it not being sexual behavior aimed at reproduction then I guess we'd better condemn all the people using condoms. If you're going to make some sort of creationist argument about God intending us to be heterosexual, you might want to look at the scientific findings on homosexuality in the animal kingdom. If it's simply the case that you want to express your ignorance in a public forum for everyone to see, well by all means, carry on.
Posted by Lordbrandon on Jun. 10 2000,06:46
i think fag is derived somthing like this:a flamboyantly gay person or a flaming gay person: a flamer; he is such a flamer he is a fag (a burning bundle of sticks) and think about this, what if you lived in a culture that decided it was wrong for you to love puntang? whould you stop, I wouldnt. Posted by Firefox on Jun. 10 2000,19:10
If you lived in a world where everyone practiced beastiality, and you thought is was wrong and didn't want anything to do with it, how the hell would you feel if everyone said "Look at the weirdo! He is sick! He is a natural abbhoration because he dosen't do what we do! HE WOULD RATHER SCREW A WOMAN THAN A GOAT!!! WHAT A SICKO!!!"Look, I don't condone any one way of life or another. I live my life the way I want to, and I think that everyone should have the right to live the same way. At my core, I am a heterosexual. I would never pretend to be anything else, because I am who I am. So why should people who live differently have to follow different rules? Grow up and get your freakin' heads out of the dark ages. If someone isn't bothering you, why the hell should you be able to tell them how to live? Just worry about making the most out of your own life. If you go through your life absessing over what other people are doing, I can guarantee that your life will be a shitty mess. -Firefox Posted by Nero on Jun. 10 2000,19:35
All i have to say is read something by gore vidal. the man is a genius and a helluva writer. i've really enjoyed everything i've read of his. and i had read somewhere around seven of his books before i found out he was gay. he isn't effiminate, he was just compared to jfk in terms of sexual desires. as in while jfk was poking marilyn, vidal was out chasing men. i'm not into it myself, but i don't give a rat's ass what anyone else does. i work with three lesbians (at least) and i honestly don't give a shit what or who they do. i think the whole idea of lesbians is somewhat absurd: if they were really lesbians then they wouldn't touch you with a ten foot dildo. granted that every man's dream is to nail two - or more - hot chicks at the same time, but they'd have to be bi to let you do that. or maybe really wasted, take your pick. so i guess that wasn't really all i had to say... Posted by AnimalPrime on Jun. 11 2000,02:05
quote: You know what...Fuck you! You pull out this high and mighty shit and act like your sooooo much better then everyone else, well we live the way we want to too! What is it to you if someone bashes a fag? You just went and bashed the fag bashers didn't you? so shut the fuck up!!!! and dont get your head out of dark ages..just open your eyes and look around! And apprently you are obsesed with what other people are doing ASS! ------------------ Posted by ScruplaniS on Jun. 11 2000,10:04
Ya know all these people's obsession with calling others faggots or rednecks or whatever is really in it's own right stupid as hell, and really fucking bothers me. Especially when you know it isn't true, if the guy flaunts he is a fag then go ahead call him a fag, he probably likes it, but if he is not then people should keep thier fucking mouths shut. Sure some people do it for fun, or to make a joke, but I don't see that as the case here.Here is a twisted story for you all. One of my "friends", who wasn't gay that I knew of, started spreading rumors that I was gay (Grade 10). Well that just fucking made me so mad when I found out it was him and some skank friend of his. Even my friends today still remember that shit and tease me about it. Turns out that this "friend" ended up "coming out" in grade 12 now he is one of those people who dance around flaunting that they are gay. Really society today gives me one big fucking headache. Oh, and for the record, for all you out there dying to go around bashing I AM NOT GAY, so don't even fucking start.
------------------ Posted by The_Hiro on Jun. 12 2000,01:45
quote: There is a difference between the two. What you're advocating is a society of complete anarchy. No civility, no rules, everybody doing whatever the hell they please. However, living in society necessitates that people give up some freedoms for the sake of cohesion. Think about how well society would function if everybody could simply grab a shotgun and pull a Columbine every time they got annoyed. It'd be none too pleasant and it'd fall apart pretty quickly. I could be wrong, but I think what Firefox is suggesting is that if all of us give up a little bit of our freedom (i.e. the freedom to hurt others whom we disagree with), and if we all try to be a little more tolerant and understanding, then we all benefit and win greater freedom. If you are truly intent on being spiteful to those whom you disagree with and are unwilling to show a bit of tolerance and understanding towards those who are different from you, then perhaps you'd appreciate living in Bosnia or Rwanda. I've heard that the people of those countries are pretty open with their hostilities... Trust me my friend, if you had to live in a country where everybody actually acted out on their hostility, and simply said every hurtful thing that popped into their head, you'd realize Firefox's choice of 'dark ages' is an apt metaphor. When the only rule is 'Might is Right' life is pretty 'short, nasty, and brutish'. So I guess what I'm trying to say is that if you've got a prejudice and you're unwilling to consider the other side's viewpoint, then it's probably best for you to remain silent on the subject. Not only does it make life more tolerable for all concerned, but it's also practical. You never know, somebody out there might take your comments to heart and take it upon themselves to correct your prejudiced ways by means more unpleasant than words. A society that grants absolute freedom to its citizens is no society at all. Posted by Chrissy on Jun. 12 2000,07:41
First off all its ignorant to gay bash...we are the ones who make society and society creates homosexuality. M. Foucult said that people are about 99\% social and 1\% biological so even if there are studies that show homosexuality in the animal kingdom its still a product of social engineering. Anyone who gay bashes is really just judging themselves for we created society and society creates us. =)------------------ Posted by AnimalPrime on Jun. 12 2000,23:18
well more high and mighty shit from you, did I say anything about no considering the other sides pov, no i dont think I did! Did I say we should fuck all rules,no i dont think I did! Obviously every thing would fall apart if this is what happened all i was getting at was that we all have a prejudice of one kind or another so dont act like u dont! and i hope to god Hiro that u are not american cause your countries whole polocy on about every thing is might is right! ------------------ Posted by The_Hiro on Jun. 13 2000,03:13
quote: Ok. First off I'm a Canadian too. I live in metropolitan Toronto (but even if I was an American it would be a fallacy to associate national policies with me as an individual). Secondly, yes, the human mind has the unfortunate tendency of forming stereotypes, and I think that you're right, everyone has them (yes, I admit that I'm guilty as charged). However, just because the human mind has natural prejudicial tendencies does not mean that it is right to act out on them (i.e. when you announce your prejudicial thoughts in a forum for everyone to see, that's different from keeping homophobic rhetoric to yourself). Thirdly, with respect to my comment on 'consider[ing] the other side's viewpoint...' by that I meant that adopting the 'other's' pov will often lead one to empathize with or at least understand someone else's position. Each of us shares more in common with one another as opposed to differences from each other. It's easy to lose sight of this fact and to become fixated on differences, and I think that this is what leads to the harmful practice of labelling things in terms of 'us and them'. Finally, it seems to me that you hold a similar opinion to mine(at least that's what your comments in the 'immigrants' thread suggest), so I'm not sure why you are so adamant that 'fag bashing' is ok. The way I see it, if you are willing to show tolerance for people with different cultural backgrounds then it shouldn't be a great leap to show tolerance for people of differing lifestyles. Perhaps I've misunderstood your statements. If so, please clarify your position. Posted by Happyfish on Jun. 13 2000,03:37
Yes, gay bashing is wrong. It is never right to prosecute someone unless one does so lawfully. So, if you don't like homosexuals, fine. But don't be an ass about it. What I have a problem with is gay people that flaunt it. For example, the gay pride day marches. THAT is just wrong. Hundreds of half naked and naked men(and women) with piercings, holding hands, necking, walking through the streets of my city is NOT necessary. And I don't see how it helps their position. I really don't. If they want to be accepted as a part of society, why do they continually point out their differences? (And where's the hetersexual pride marches?)Overall I think homosexuality is wrong, but bashing is just as wrong. But so are the extremes taken by some groups to...to do whatever they're trying to do... [This message has been edited by Happyfish (edited June 12, 2000).] Posted by The_Hiro on Jun. 13 2000,04:21
quote: Yeah, I think that's the other side of the coin. I don't think it helps the gay 'community' either. I think the logic behind it though, is to bring the issue into the open so that people become accustomed to the idea of homosexuality. Unfortunately, in the case of the parade this approach is somewhat offensive because some of the people involved are insistent about exposing themselves indecently. This is in clear violation of the laws that everybody else must follow. Naturally, this creates resentment. Take care not to generalize too much from the paraders(sp?), though. I've spoken to some gay individuals who are also offended by the actions of these people. Perhaps even more so, since they must deal with the stigma that's created by this small but highly visible group. Realize that just as there are individuals who have to 'flaunt' it, there are also gay people who do not, and who are even offended by such actions. [This message has been edited by The_Hiro (edited June 12, 2000).] Posted by Firefox on Jun. 13 2000,20:33
quote: That dosen't make any sense. So you are saying we should all have the right to do whatever we want? If someone's belief is that every man woman and child on earth should die, should we stand back and let them because by golly, we have to have absolute freedom? Look, there's a BIG difference here. I didn't fucking say you had to like homosexuality. NO ONE here has said that for cryin' out loud. I don't have any affinity for it- personally, I think that there is a much greater chance of contracting a STD living a homosexual life than a heterosexual one, and I think the idea of gay pride parades is stupid... but what does that matter? It sure doesn't effect me in any way. I can sit down and say "you know what? I don't like the idea of those parades, so I'm not going to watch them." What's so hard about that? All I am saying is that people should have the choice to do and think what they want, AS LONG AS that doesn't infringe on anyone else's right to do the same. You seem to be obsessed with the stereotypical American opinion that freedom should be valued above everything else. So if this is true, why shouldn't gays have the freedom to do what they want too without being persecuted?? Or is the perspective "Freedom should be valued above everything else... but only for people who think like I do. Everyone else can go to hell and die"? And why do you think I am so "high and mighty"? Because I stated my opinion, and how I felt about the issue? Isn't that what everyone else on this page is doing? Posted by AnimalPrime on Jun. 13 2000,22:05
i said high and mighty cause that is what you sounded like . It makes perfect sence in western civilization every one is intitled to their own opinion..so if someone belives everyone shouold die they can think that and say that, not saying that it is right, and as soon as it becomes infringent on someone else's right to exist or think what they want it is not cool. Your just acting like a prick and telling us we all in the dark ages for having a prejudice aginst anything and acting like you dont. It is human nature to have prejudice we fear what is diffrent! and gays fagging it up in public is fine with me i dont have to watch it isn't hurting anyone is it? Freedom should be valued abouve all else, having it not dosn't make anysence to me. Then thigs would be like comunist russia or nazi germany and no one would have any rights to take away some freedom is to take it all away! ------------------ Posted by j0eSmith on Jun. 14 2000,00:21
Hiro, your gay arn't you? Just making sure..As for my views on it, as long as you stay the fuck away from me.. fine whatever. I think the best arguement that homosexuality isn't natural is the simple fact that you can't get the other pregnat and reproduce, the whole basic carnal point of sex. The fact that sex (hetro-sex) just kicks complete ass is a really beneficial side effect. Homo's can't naturally reproduce, therefore shouldn't exist. (Y'know Darwins whole evolution theroy..survival of the fittest and all that) Posted by AnimalPrime on Jun. 14 2000,00:32
lol u da man joe, that was some funny shit!------------------ Posted by Sithiee on Jun. 14 2000,00:47
that was possibly the dumbest argument ever. oral sex and anal sex dont make anyone pregnant, but its still done. does that mean because oral sex and anal sex arent gonna get anyone pregnant that its wrong, and that we shoudl start bashing people who practice it? youre a fucking idiot.
Posted by The_Hiro on Jun. 14 2000,17:31
quote:
With respect to your argument from evolution, I sincerely hope that you were joking. Otherwise you've seriously misunderstood and misappropriated Darwin's theory of natural selection (I hate it when people do that). Consider the following problem that Darwin wrestled with: Why is it that altruistic behaviour exists even when it has no apparent contribution to an individual's fitness? For instance, all the worker bees in a hive are sterile; they have zero chance of passing on their genes. By your brilliant reasoning there should be no worker bees at all since they are unable to pass their genes on to future generations. But the fact is that they do exist. You've committed the fallacy of thinking that selection takes place on the level of the individual. It doesn't. Selection takes place at the level of the gene. So if you were truly serious (hard to believe), then your biology teacher has failed miserably and you'd best read some books on the subject (e.g. Richard Dawkins, "The Selfish Gene" or Robert Wright's, "Moral Animal"). Otherwise you're going to appear ignorant next time you bring evolution up in a conversation. And we wouldn't want that, would we? [This message has been edited by The_Hiro (edited June 14, 2000).] [This message has been edited by The_Hiro (edited June 14, 2000).] Posted by Firefox on Jun. 14 2000,20:39
quote: Well, fine then, we are agreed on one thing at least- that people can think what we want. If you want to think that gays suck, that's your opinion. The fact though, is that when people say "I think all fags should die" it isn't neccesarily just an idle comment- those kinds of statements CAN and often DO lead to direct action. Words are very powerful man, and simply saying something like that can easily lead to violence. And I'm a "prick" because I was telling you you were all 'garbage' because you had prejudices or something? Wow, you must be extrapolating a hell of a lot from what I am saying. First of all, I don't think I ever said something like "Anyone with a prejudice sucks..." And I never said that people don't have prejudices- of course, we ALL have prejudices of some sort or another. And yeah, it's a part of human nature, but that doesn't mean we shouldn't try to change it. Killing each other is also a part of human nature- we ARE competitive animals, after all. That doesn't mean we should just give on the idea of trying to increase peace and make the world a better place. Some people are so damn defensive, and think that everyone is out to get them. Calm down. It's just MY opinion, already. [This message has been edited by Firefox (edited June 14, 2000).] Posted by Bozeman on Jun. 23 2000,14:15
1st of all, on Hiro's topic of evolution, If Homosexuals can't reproduce, then they should have died out by now. This is highly suggestive that there is no genetic explanation for homosexuality, but it is a choice made by the individual. 2nd, why does anyone care if these people want to do whatever they do? As long as you are not biting the pillow, does it make your life any worse if they are? 3rd, I did not know the origin of the word faggot. Thanks, it is an interesting fact. (although it is disturbing to think of innocent people burning) Finally, opressing someone different sucks. I am an atheist, and people at my school used to give me shit for it, but I just let it slide."Violence only begets violence" Posted by The_Hiro on Jun. 24 2000,05:10
Bozeman:While I don't feel like getting into an argument with you since we seem to be on the same side, it seems you haven't read (or understood) all of my posts on the subject. *sigh* Let me reiterate: Selection takes place at the level of the gene, not the individual. If you look at the case of bees or termites, you'll realize that while drones themselves lack the capability to reproduce (and somehow I don't think this is a choice on their part) they still exist and their genes continue to get propagated. Why? Because by serving the queen who shares their genes, they help to ensure that their own genes get passed on. So, just because you're not macking doesn't mean that your genes are doomed to oblivion. Another possibility is that 'gay genes' are like sickle cell anemia. To clarify, sickle cell anemia is a hereditary condition that when fully expressed is usually fatal. Yet partial expression of the trait confers the benefit of greater resistance to malaria. Not surprisingly, the sickle cell anemia trait is prevalent in Africa where its adaptive value is greater than its cost. By analogy, it's possible that while the full expression of gay genes is disadvantageous, partial expression confers some form of advantage - it may result in a more sensitive hetero which women find attractive (I dunno. This is pure speculation). The point is, there's a lot more to natural selection and the theory of evolution than most people think. The Darwinian mantra "survival of the fittest" is rather misleading and shouldn't be taken at face value. Again, please read some books about evolution, or study your biology text harder. It's kinda of tiring trying to clear up these misconceptions. Posted by jptech on Jul. 01 2000,18:25
OK, I'm going to wake this one up, and it's probably going to piss people off... flame me if you'd like! =)I certainly love hearing what everyone thinks about this (bashing, caring, good or bad). So I'd like to give my point of view on this. I am a 19 year old gay male. I grew up in a little preppy California town where "nobody" was gay. I had to hide myself for 4 years in high school, in that time only coming out to one person (who is my best friend). I grew up in a family where homosexuality was present (other family members, aunts uncles, etc.) and was accepted, so I guess you could say I grew up around it. It was never really talked about, but everyone knew that "it" was present. No matter what the studies say, I believe that your sexual orientation is both genetically and socialally determined. I must say that mine was; growing up repressed wasn't much fun, and having the idea of being gay as being OK from as far back as I can remember probably had something to do with it. --At this point I nust apologize for the randomness of this... it's Saturday and I'm at work, trying to dodge having to actually do anything. I'm pretty tired and would rather be at home asleep =) When I finally started coming out to my friends (after graduation), most of them wouldn't believe me. One of them (a girl, also one of my best friends) told me she always knew I was too nice to be straight. I didn't come out to my family (actually just my Mom, my Dad still doesn't know) until after my 19th birthday. I am not the stereotypical "gay man", I don't act flamboyant, do interior decorating or acting, etc. etc. etc. I know a lot of people that act "really gay", and it bothers me sometimes. I don't go around flaunting that fact that I'm gay, nor do I hide from it. If someone asks me about it I answer them truthfully. I've gotten tired of hiding from it. What irks me most about some people is that they can't be open minded. I understand how some people (jim. AnimalPrime, j0eSmith) don't like the idea of it. They may have been raised in settings where it wasn't accepted, or ever talked about. They may have had bad experiences with gay men showing interest in them (I don't know this for fact, it's just a possibility, so I thought I'd mention it). However, that doesn't give you the right to pass any sort of judgement on me or anyone else. One thing that always has bothered me is the PDA (and I didn't speak out in that forum because it wouldn't fit in quite right). If I were to walk down the street with my boyfriend hand-in-hand, or maybe give him a hug or a kiss, I would feel really uncomfortable. Not because it's a strange thing to do to me, but because (almost) everyone around would be put out/uncomfortable/bothered/whatever about it. I don't like putting people in situations where they would feel uncomfortable, so I just don't do it. However, I don't like it when I do decide to do that and am accused of flaunting my homosexuality. If it were a girl I was walking down the street with, would I be instantly accused of flaunting my heterosexuality? I think not. I have had the unfortunate experience of having judgement passed on me quite a few times. People who were quite close to me in high school now won't talk to me. I have been threatened with physical violence by people who barely know me. Worst of all, a person that I've known since I moved up here (8th grade), who was for a year my boyfriend, roommate, and quite a bit else, and whom I loved more than anything else, had his mind turned by another person that I (at that time) called my friend. That other person holds a similar attitude to that of what I'll call a "gay-basher". He talked my boyfriend into believing that what he was doing was wrong, and that if I was willing to let him have any sort of relationship that wasn't completely heterosexual that I was evil yadda yadda yadda. Because of the close-mindedness of this certain person, I lost the only person that I've ever loved. Had it been something that was expected I wouldn't have had the difficulty with it that I have, but I came home one day to find him packing his stuff up. All he told me was that he hated me and never wanted to talk to me again. Being unwilling to accept anything that you don't consider "normal" can hurt other people more than you might think. So please think before you speak out against something. OK, that's my $.02. I await all of your flame mail with great anticipation =) Posted by Willy Pete on Jul. 01 2000,21:31
No flame, only applause. That took guts.PS: you can buy faggots in England. They're cheap and tasty. I eat them when I'm almost broke. For those of you confused, they are kind of like meatballs in gravy. Tesco sells them. Thought that was quite funny that they still call them that. ------------------ Posted by jptech on Jul. 01 2000,22:31
Thanks, WP.** Had something really crude that I put here, but changed my mind and took it out. [This message has been edited by jptech (edited July 01, 2000).] Posted by Hellraiser on Jul. 02 2000,01:24
I wouldn't think of flaming you. I'm a believer in the golden rule: do unto others as you would have them do unto you. Since I wouldn't want people to criticize me for my sexual preferences (I happen to be heterosexual) so I don't criticize others. What you did took guts, and I commend you for it. I probably wouldn't have had it in me .One thing that really pisses me off is people who use "gay" as an insult. I guess some people are just ignorant and don't care to learn the truth. ------------------ Posted by jptech on Jul. 02 2000,02:42
I've gotten to the point where if anyone says something that isn't particularly kind I just ignore it -- in the past 2 years I've heard just about everything and nothing really shocks me anymore! =)I'm usually not insulted when anyone throws crap in my direction. The only time that someone has been able to hurt me with their words was in the case of my ex-everything... after doing everything I had for him in the previous year it wasn't really something that couldn't hurt me. Posted by Teflon on Jul. 05 2000,19:04
Jim said "Faggots take their COCK, and stick it up a hairy guys ASS! There is nothing mysterious about this. It's freaking nasty, it's un-natural, it's wrong in OH so many ways...."I'm sure that there are many gay couples out there that feel the same way about anal sex, and are content just to love each other. And whats wrong with that? Posted by jptech on Jul. 06 2000,02:16
Not to say that I'm into that sort of thing or not, however...I have never slept with a "hairy guy". Most people's idea of a gay man is some big, nasty, leather-wearing biker guy. I personally am turned off very much by that. But that's just me. Some people are into that sort of thing. One thing I don't like is that some people *ahem* think that gay men are only into sex, or whatever. I (personally) am currently looking for a relationship of some kind. Sex isn't all that important. You can live without it. But it's pretty hard to live without someone else to love. =( Posted by jim on Aug. 08 2000,15:46
I think I'm going to fucking puke....------------------ Posted by Willy Pete on Aug. 09 2000,06:39
You woke this up just to say that?Wanker. Posted by The_Hiro on Aug. 09 2000,10:12
quote: It's called troll-ing. Posted by jptech on Aug. 13 2000,00:06
Dude - if you can't handle it don't read it.
Posted by caseman984 on Aug. 13 2000,03:08
Geez.. can't we all get along?------------------ Posted by Ozymandias on Aug. 13 2000,17:50
quote: You know what I do if there's a topic that I don't like? I don't post to it. Dickface. ------------------ Posted by ch1ckie on Aug. 13 2000,20:49
yea, two men are considered gross and two women totally turns guys on. then again, i would much prefer to befriend a gay guy... they are usually much better dancers, and sorry to say but my gay guy friends are superiorly hot compared to the straight guys around here. if a lesbian hit on me, i would be as offended as an ugly guy hitting on me Posted by The_Hiro on Aug. 13 2000,23:45
quote: I completely agree. But you're not expressing ideas. All you're doing is expressing your unfounded and irrational bigotry. Note: Feelings != Ideas (i.e. Unless you can provide logical arguments in support of your position you're not adding anything to the discussion). I completely support freedom of speech (in this case, I support your right to babble incoherently). But let's call a spade a spade. You're not here to engage in discussion. You just want people to affirm that your ignorance is okay. Sorry, not going to happen. Posted by jim on Aug. 14 2000,05:31
What a bunch of dipshits!!The whole purpose of forums is to express ideas back and worth. Personally I think all pillow bitters should drop off the face of the earth. That's my opinion AND I'M GONNA FUCKING POST IT! I don't tell you dick suckers NOT to post. Go fuck yourselves. ------------------ Posted by Ozymandias on Aug. 14 2000,05:58
Fuck you.Just like you have the right to hate people who are different, I have the right to hate you for being a shithead. See? And you know what else? I have the right to think--and even suggest to you!--that if you dislike a topic so strongly, you can NOT post to it. And I even have the right to say: Shut up, you homophobic retard. It's called freedom of speech. Yes, the same thing that lets you drool out anti-gay rhetoric also gives me the ability to say that I think you should shut the fuck up. So, shut up, you homophobic retard. ------------------ Posted by Ozymandias on Aug. 14 2000,18:14
The_Hiro: Well...I suppose that approach could work too. ------------------ Posted by jim on Aug. 14 2000,23:01
Look. I don't give a shit who agrees with me.Are you not disgusted by women who like golden showers? Shit eaters? Or guys that sit in bathtubs and get off by women puking on them? I know I am.... I'm also disgusted with male homosexual sex. Me liking someone has to do with me and my compatable interests with them. There are plenty of straight men I don't like. But, it takes me getting to know them to find out. As for gay men, I just know before we ever speak. I don't feel comfortable around them, talking to them, nothing... I don't want anything to do them. I also don't like murderers, rapists, and child poronographers... Care to knock me that? Well..... What's the fucking difference?!?!? None. So again. Kiss my ass! ------------------ Posted by Ozymandias on Aug. 15 2000,00:46
"I hate niggers. Look, I know, I don't even want to talk to one, I just know I won't feel comfortable around the inferior race. They're savages. I hate murderers, where's the difference? In fact, most niggers ARE murderers."Now, jim, you tell me what's the difference between what you're saying and THAT. There is none. Get it, dickface? You remind me of a guy I talked to once who compared being Jewish to being a child molester. Anyways, you should be HAPPY there are gays around for idiots like you to bash on! You can't say things about the blacks or the Jews, that's socially unacceptable. But you can still hate the fags! Oh well. Not like I'm going to change our mind. But hey, I can still bask in the self-esteem boosting glow of your sheer idiocy. ------------------ Posted by Happyfish on Aug. 15 2000,02:41
"Niggers" as you put in in your example can't help being black. Or dark skinned..whatever. It's genetic. Homosexual sex is an act. A choice, decision. Some people may argue that being homosexual is genetic, but that cannot be proven. It is still a choice to have sex with another man. That's the difference.Though I could probably be fine talking to someone I knew was gay, I would never become very good friends with them, for the reason that I would never become comfortable with them. Call me what you will, but that's how I feel. Just becuase you do not agree with homosexuality, does NOT mean you are a homophobe. Posted by The_Hiro on Aug. 15 2000,04:21
quote: Right. Your logic is indisputable. Two consenting adults having a relationship with one another is equivalent to a man forcibly taking a woman, an adult taking sexual advantage of a child, or a person killing another human being without justification. Wow. You know what I've just realized. Your vast intellect is being squandered here. We need you working on real problems like world hunger. With the genius you've just displayed I'm sure you could solve all of humanity's major problems in a day. So, uh, why don't you go get started on that? Look, don't bother trying to defend your position. Just acknowledge that you're ignorant bastard and we'll leave it at that. Posted by j0eSmith on Aug. 15 2000,07:15
You know what? You can call me a homophobe if you want, because quite frankly I don't fucking care. So what if I don't like them? I'm not saying they're all the same in everyway, but they are all gay. and I'm not comfortable being around anyone whos gay, simple as that. There are lots of other people I'm not comforable around. Extreme religous fanatics for example. They just make me uncomfortable, theres nothing else to it. There is no 'bigger picture' nor any 'deeper meaning'. For once just take it at face value. Not everything needs to be read into, analyzed and chewed up. ------------------ Posted by jim on Aug. 15 2000,09:43
About time someone jumped in on my side!------------------ Posted by Wolfguard on Aug. 15 2000,10:27
Hey Joe,Do you go out of your way to bash them like that moron jim does? Being a homophobe is not a bad thing. Being an intolerent fucknugget(jim) is. ------------------ Posted by The_Hiro on Aug. 15 2000,12:25
quote: Agree with Wolfguard there. That's a key distinction. We've all got irrational prejudices (as you've pointed out), and the fact that they're irrational means we usually can't think ourselves out of them. But having an irrational prejudice and acting on it (or acting proud of it as jim likes to do), are two very different things. Civil society is built upon the idea of tolerance for differences. Take that away and we're no better than a bunch of savages. Posted by The_Hiro on Aug. 15 2000,17:46
quote: (From Webster's dictionary) I think it's pretty safe to say that jim qualifies for homophobic status (e.g. "...should drop off of the face of the earth."). But feel free to defend his homophobia. I don't mind. It's better to have ignorance out in the open for everyone to see, than to have it veiled and hidden. And another thing: Ask yourself why you feel uncomfortable around homosexuals. If you can't come up with any logical justification, then congratulations. You sir, by definition, are a homophobe.
quote: But they can help where they live. That's a choice they have. And it's their choice whether they go outside. I mean, if they had any sense of decency they'd do us all a favour and stay in their run-down tenament buildings (or better yet, move back to Africa. Best case scenario would be if they all killed themselves). I mean, why should I be forced to look at them when they have the power to stay out of my sight? Hmmm? And really, c'mon. Negroid characteristics are disgusting. I could never be friends with a negroid. And I know this before I even talk to them cause they make me uncomfortable. I think we should make it a national priority to eradicate these disgusting negroids. Oh, and one last thing (since I'm already spewing hate and ignorance). I hate Christians. And there's no doubt in my mind that they freely choose to be Christians, so they deserve all of my animosity. I really think that those repulsive Christians should all be united with their God (If you catch my drift... haw haw. Aren't I funny and clever). Whoa! Brainstorm! I just got this great idea. Let's round up a bunch of Christians, put them in a stadium, and feed them to some lions whilst charging admission. Yeah, I know what you're thinking, "How unoriginal." But then again, the ignorant and the intolerant have never been big on creativity. [This message has been edited by The_Hiro (edited August 15, 2000).] Posted by Ozymandias on Aug. 16 2000,02:58
Hm. Well, gee golly gosh, you're right! And y'know, the Jews could've just LEFT Germany if they didn't like it there, what with all the Holocaust going on!Assuming my liberal propaganda is wrong, and being gay IS a choice, why would someone choose that, out of curiosity? I mean, it just sounds like a great deal, doesn't it... The threat of being beaten to death, a higher risk of AIDs and other sexually transmitted diseases, fear of being unaccepted socially, losing friends, having your family hate you...All that and sex that leaves your ass sore. I fail to see the reason one would choose that. And I can see a logical reason behind feeling uncomfortable around extreme religious fanatics. They tend to try and convert atheists/people of other religion. And they can be very obnoxious about it, and very narrow-viewed...Well, no, I can't see why you'd feel uncomfortable around them. Anyways, despite all Christian propoganda, I have yet to hear of an actual case of a gay guy attempting to convert a straight guy, let alone so vehemently as extremely religious people tend to. Oh well. All I have to say is: Fucknugget! Fucknugget! That's a great word. ------------------ Posted by The_Hiro on Aug. 16 2000,04:18
A caveat to my previous comments: Just because it's natural for us to have prejudices doesn't mean it's right to act on them, or even that they're defensible. The problem I see with some of the people posting here, is that they think their irrational impulses are logically grounded. These people start from their irrational prejudices and attempt to support their position after the fact (usually fooling themselves into believing they're position is logically justified). Naturally, because they have built their position on such an unsound foundation, it falls apart at the slightest touch. My take on prejudices is that we've all got them. Evolution has predisposed the human mind to be prejudicial (at one point we lived in small tribes, and it was adaptive to be xenophobic). But today we live in a society where such mechanisms are maladaptive and often harmful to ourselves and those around us. Fortunately, humans have the ability to reason; we don't have to be slaves to our animal origins. Our ability to reason allows us to transcend our baser instincts. Anyhow, this is all a leadup to the following take I have on ethics: We should know our prejudices, acknowledge them for the irrational impulses that they are, and attempt to overcome them in our actions. That's not so complicated, now is it? Posted by Firefox on Aug. 16 2000,17:48
Well, here's my 2 cents...Someone was mentioning that sometimes you just don't feel comfortable around people or just feel strange around them... you know what that is likely? Unfamilliarity. Anything that is very new and very strange to you will likely seem really unwelcome. I admit too... seeing guys walk around in full drag still creeps me out. But I have (heterosexual) friends who live downtown that I think it's the same way with anything. The more time you spend with ANY group, be it a racial group, religious group, sexual group, and so on, the less uncomfortable and threatened you feel with them. It's the same way with girls, to a certain extent. When guys are growing up, especially when they are younger, most feel uncomfortable around girls. Remember back in like grade 4 when kids would squeal and shout about someone having a "girlfriend", or "run away! They have cooties"? well, after about a decade of familiarity with the opposite sex, do we find ourselves still running away from them just because they are girls and we don't like being around them? Well, I think that I can safely say MOST of us don't. Sure, we all have our prejudices... but who says that opinions and feelings don't change over time and exposure? Also- (/rant on) I have to agree that saying you like or dislike something and then rationalizing your opinion is one thing, but simply swearing up a storm and screaming about this or that is another thing... The purpose of this forum is NOT to have discussions like the following: Person A- "Gay people SUCK SHIT!! I HOPE THEY ALL DIE!!" Person B- "No they don't!! YOU SUCK SHIT FUCKER!!" Person A- "No, you are wrong!!! GO TO HELL YOU FAGGOT!!" Person B- "No, YOU go to hell you fucking asshole!" Etc. etc... if this is the kind of conversation you were looking for, go join a fucking web chat or something. Forums like this are for intelligent, meaningful conversation, not for some fricking 12 year old to experiment with naughty words his friends taught him. (/rant off) -FFox
------------------ "A christian, an anarchist-slash-prostitute, figures out the true meaning of freedom. Not freedom like America, freedom like a shopping cart." Posted by reman on Aug. 17 2000,01:56
well said. and although I agree with the familiarity point... there is also something else.I believe that some people are more disposed to accepting certain attributes, wether it be religious practices, sexuality, ethnicity, looks, marital status. I think these people are more accepting of all these things, ie accepting someone as a whole. I think there are people out there who go 'I don't like you because your gay', where as I have not seen any of the anti-gay posters on this board say 'Sure I don't like gay sex, but I still have gay friends' Surely something like sexuality, sex, ethnicty don't define us wholly. Of course the caveat to this is that some people take that which is 'different' and uses that to present their persona. This had led them to being previously villified and oppressed, eg women, and Afro-Americans. But now it is seen as a way of raising awareness within the communities they live in. Why did I post this...I'm a bigot, I really don't like most organised religions. My mother is a christian (church of englad) but that doesn't make me hate or dislike her. I have christian friends, I didn't find out about it at first but after I found out, I made sure it didn't change the relationship. Did it change the person I knew before into someone I didn't? No, of course not. Only if I was a dickhead would it matter. What am I trying to say here. (from buddhist teachings, which is one religion I admire) Learn to have compassion for all people, you don't have to love them or even like them (we're not hippies ya know ). Just feel in your heart a compassion for all things. regards, reman ------------------ Posted by Wolfguard on Aug. 17 2000,11:03
Ozymandias: The jews did try to leave Germany during WWII. Problem was they had to sneak out of that country, and others, with out being shot. Puts a crimp in that "they could of just left" argument of yours.(i think i did get the sarcasim in your point so flame off please )All: Yes, being gay is a choice, but its not a choice that should get you driven into the streets and shot. That would be like killing people who snowboard, hey, its a choice too, why not bash them for no reason? or people who eat beets? To all you Fucknuggets out there. Lighten up! At the end of the road we will all be rotting in a box or taking up space on someones mantel. If you dont like the choices that a person makes then dont talk to them. Its that fucking easy. If you dont pay attention to a person they go away. Look at OJ, as long as they pay attention to that fucknugget he will not go away! ------------------ Posted by SimplyModest on Aug. 17 2000,14:21
anyone else find it humorous when a person calls someone "gay" as an insult.A - gay is name homosexuals chose for themselves as a way to express that this choice has made them happy (gay). B - ie. "you're happy(gay) aren't you!... you're really f*cking happy(gay) you happywad(gaywad)! well thats just sick, i hope you and all your happy(gay) friends can go have a happy(gay) time!" you see how that is not insulting at all? *gay = happy and im sure the list goes on. well... thats my opinion. ------------------ Posted by j0eSmith on Aug. 17 2000,23:13
Simplymodest: That has to be the stupidest fucking argument I have ever heard. Why don't you just start chanting "I know you are but what am I?" or "I'm rubber your glue bounces off me sticks to you." Just give it up. Lets see.. Queer: Strange, yeah thats insulting. Faggot: Bundle of sticks to be burnt. Hmmm... Heh, reman you don't want to get me started on people who always to to convert and preach thier 'true religion' to you. Organized religon is completly corrupted anyway. ------------------ Posted by reman on Aug. 18 2000,01:06
Joe - here I agree with you so much. But I have talked to many people about this. All of these people know more than I (though they would all die with laughter hearing me admit this...but anyways) and they have taught me one thing about organised religion (in particular the Catholic church)1. The catholic church has done so much wrong, they stood by when germany persecuted all the jews, and committed attrocities, they were corrupt where you could oust your enemy by buying papal favour... 2. The catholic church though has also done so much good. they introduced the concept that everyone is an individual and should be loved. they brought reading and writing to the masses... you can make your own decision, but like all moral and ethical dilemas there is so much grey area. i hope this has been elightening. regards, reman ------------------ Posted by SimplyModest on Aug. 18 2000,03:46
quote: what argument. i was pointing out something. and that was that gay is not a bad term. actually if you think of it strange isnt a bad term either. everything is strange to you once in your life... something is strange only cause you don't know anything about it. so calling someone queer (or strange) you're just admitting you own ignorance.
Posted by Firefox on Aug. 18 2000,17:16
I admit that I still use "gay" a lot... like "this game is so fucking gay" or "this is the gayest thing I've ever seen"... but I don't conciously use it in the homosexual term. In fact, I think that most people don't... it's just another slang word that's worked itself into our vernacular. Just like "lame" or "retarted". It just packs a little more punch.Reman- I think you nailed a pretty good point. It's easy for us to all stand around and classify everything as black and white- for example, "religion- good" or "religion- bad"... but like almost everything in life, nothing is black or white. The church has done a lot of wrong, and religion in itself has caused so many problems over the last few thousand years... but at the same time, it has quite possibly averted many other problems, and has contributed in many areas to man's development. This is why I tend to disagree with people who outright despise every aspect of religion, or conversely, those who blindly follow religious teachings to a point without any thought whatsoever about the validity or those teachings. That's why, although I consider myself agnostic, I am still rather open minded towards religious ideas and principles. I better end this real quick, or else I will drift so far off topic that you'll need a GPS tracker to find me. -FFox ------------------ "A christian, an anarchist-slash-prostitute, figures out the true meaning of freedom. Not freedom like America, freedom like a shopping cart." Posted by Ozymandias on Aug. 18 2000,18:00
Let's applaud this topic for making it to a third page. This has got to be one of my favorite threads. ------------------ Posted by Pete the Pirate on Aug. 19 2000,02:00
faggot also means A Homosexual Male as well as a bundle of sticks, check the oxford english dictionary
Posted by Ozymandias on Aug. 19 2000,03:42
Yes, that's a definition in a RECENT dictionary. But the original definition is a bundle of sticks or a cigarette, it should say "slang" somewhere within the vicinity of the homosexual definition, because that's the point they were making: It's use as a reference to homosexuals is not its actual definition.------------------ Posted by morganisms on Sep. 11 2000,22:58
Just wanted to say, theres no excuse for putting somone who's gay down or bashing them, its fucked up to say the least. On the other hand if someone shoves it my face I'll shove back, I dont push my morales on anyone and I expect to be treated the same.and one more thing, "homophobic" is such a polotically correct term created by society to put down anyone who dis-likes what gays do. Just because people bash gays, doesn't give them the right to put down people who dont't have the same values/prefrences? hell no, just cuz Im not gay and I will NEVER be gay make me homophobic? they make it seem like you have a problem. loads of bs! anyway, done bitchn... Posted by Bozeman on Sep. 11 2000,23:47
Because this dead thread is back now, I would like to say that my roommate at MSU says everything is gay. EVERYTHING!!!!!! I can understand if something is "gay" once in a while, but he uses it 5-6 times a day!He also says D'oh! when nothing went wrong, and he doesn't do it right. Posted by kuru on Sep. 12 2000,02:11
boze: man i feel your pain. my sister does it constantly. every five minutes, something is 'gay'... she'd probably die of a hemorrhage if the word 'gay' was removed from her vocabulary. every now and then, a vernacular term can add an understated emphasis to something...but when someone uses it all the time like my sister does, well i just wanna choke her. ------------------ Posted by Sithiee on Sep. 12 2000,08:26
i have friends who use it, but as in saying "youre a homosexual" no like "you suck"...my friend tried to convince me that the car i drive sucked (vw jetta) because more gay people drive vws than any other company. is that fucked up or what??
Posted by Bozeman on Sep. 12 2000,09:37
Not unless the car is rainbow colored...
Posted by kuru on Sep. 12 2000,15:36
my mom saw one of those rainbow stickers on a car while we were going from my house to her house. she thought it was really cool and wanted one for her own car, until i told her what they stand for.i kind of wonder how someone could live every single day in this world, with tv, movies, magazines, newspapers etc and not know what that sticker meant. ------------------ Posted by directhex on Sep. 12 2000,18:02
it's kinda sad that even on a site like detnet, where chronic computer geeks are supposed to unite together in harmony, we see intolerence.we live in a homophobic world. this is fact. i know kids who use 'gay' as an insult before they even know what it means. me and my girlfriend are kissin on a park bench, one of her little brother's friends shouts "that's so gay!" i agree that gay pride and stuff like that really dosen't help. would white pride marches go down well? methinks not. but really, who gives a flying fuck what gays get up to amongst themselves? the rabid homophobes all sound like they fear gay rape if there's a gay man in the room. do women fear rape if there's a straight man in the room? no. as long as they aren't trying anything on with you, why should it make a difference what they do? thank you and goodnight. --directhex ------------------ Posted by Bozeman on Sep. 12 2000,18:30
No, no, thank you directhex, for saying something insighful and true.
Posted by jim on Sep. 12 2000,19:04
You people are so gay!------------------ Posted by kuru on Sep. 12 2000,21:51
the problem with <insert group here> pride parades is that they emphasize difference and separation. we'd all think it absurd if anybody ever had a 'human pride parade'..... but that's what we should be doing.we tend to forget that every single one of us makes up the only race there really is.... the human race. the only thing i cannot tolerate is intolerance. ------------------ Posted by directhex on Sep. 14 2000,18:23
dear god! people are agreeing with me for once! i feel special!--directhex ------------------ Posted by directhex on Sep. 14 2000,18:26
oh, and as well as a bundle of sticks, a faggot is a type of meat dumpling made of chopped pork liver, herbs, breadcrumbs, and then fried.--directhex ------------------ Posted by Burner on Sep. 14 2000,23:32
You have no idea of how far this is going. In USA and Europe, homossexuality is being widely accepted ( at least mostly ). Where I live ( Brazil ), people are still too narrow-minded because of Media, that uses homossexuality constantly as a curse in humoristic tv shows. I even used to make jokes with my friends about this, when I realized it was plain stupid, and that talking about homossexuality wasn't fun at all, since I am hetero. They will go on like this, since the media is strong, but at least I was enlightened. Most of them must be homophobic, since gays are very badly seen here.I feel sad for gay people in Brazil. They suffer A LOT in here. We see them getting spanked, death-threatened, being teased by friends, relatives or even teachers ( who are supposed to teach us to be better people ). I hope this kind of atrocity stop soon, and after so many good posts and so many great philosophical questions discussed, I believe it will. Congratulations to all the good texts here, even for those which I don't agree with, because change begins with arguments being shown and discussed. Posted by Bozeman on Sep. 14 2000,23:51
Why can't we all be like Burner? The last paragraph of his post is put extremely well, kudos Burner.
Posted by Burner on Sep. 15 2000,15:01
Yeah... you can't be like me because I am too damn good...I GOT THE 100th POSTING TO THIS TOPIC!!! I RULE THE WORLD!!! Ok, thanks for the compliment. Posted by directhex on Sep. 15 2000,18:12
how on earth did we get over 100 replies to this topic?!!!?!--directhex ------------------ Posted by Hellraiser on Sep. 16 2000,09:47
Probably because of people like you who post about it.
Posted by jptech on Sep. 23 2000,02:23
Yeah, yeah, it's been dead 6 days but I haven't had a chance to say anything here for a while...Some of you know me pretty well by now (just look at my post on page 2 on this thread if you haven't seen it yet) What I'd like to know is if anybody in here (aside from myself and my other 4 personalities, of course) would consider themselves to be gay or lesbian. I know that most people wouldn't be willing to admit something like that about themselves publically, so I don't expect to get any replies actually in the thread -- it's just that there have been so many passionate responses on this topic that I can't help to think that I'm NOT the only one... If you have any response to this, please contact me at the E-Mail address in my profile (unless, of course, you feel comfortable enough to put something in the thread itself). However -- it is my work address at a fairly major corporation, and while I could care less as to the content of the message, spam/etc. is not really appreciated... and we have ways of making you suffer =) Of course, your privacy is respected... I'm not one to go about telling things about everybody else. Posted by kuru on Sep. 24 2000,00:42
i don't know why i'm replying.. maybe just because i've said enough stuff on this forum about how turned off by chicks i am that i don't want to give anybody the wrong impression that i'm a homophobe.i'm not gay, i'm not bi, i'm straight. i know this because i've done enough physical stuff with members of the female gender to know that i got nothing out of it. it's like kissing the back of my hand, and it weirded me out like crazy to feel a boob on someone other than myself. anyway, i just wanted to go on the record that my 'don't knock it till you tried it' stuff goes for me too. ------------------ Posted by jptech on Sep. 27 2000,00:24
wow... I didn't actually think I'd get a response. thanks, kuru.
Posted by darksol on Sep. 27 2000,00:46
just so everyone knows, the actual term usage of the term faggot for homosexuals came about during the puritan colonization of America. when the puritans started burning the witches they believed that homosexuals were no better than bundles of wood so they tied homosexuals in side a bundle of wood and burned them with the witch. and thats that.------------------ Posted by fatbitch on Oct. 04 2000,13:07
My fathers best friend from highschool is gay. my father is not gay, and neither am i but he is a very good friend to mehe is in his mid forties, and i am 18. he particularily likes young men (as old men like young women) and frequently compliments me on my eyes, face, arse, whetver. he even slurs at me, but its only as if it were normal behaviour, not something wierd or different. i slur to my best female friends, they laugh. he slurs at me, i laugh with him. as well as him only seeing me as a friend, just as i see my female friends as just friends. he would never do anything to jeopardise our friendship, or his friendship with my father i am also pretty sure that my dad has done wome experimenting, if not with our friend then with someone else. so what? personally i wouldnt emperiment (yet) but i dont care if he has as a result of this i have grown up very tolerant. think about it, if a gay guy hits on you (like tries to pick you up or whitles at you or something) just think its the equivalent of a female doing the same thing. its a compliment, no matter which sex it comes from. i know some guys would attemt to even gang bash a gay man for doing that, but its just a compliment guys get over it! wow i have smoked WAAAY to much pot sorry i am drifting. hehe and finally. being gay is not a choice. do you think you have the choice to like the opposite sex if you are hetro? just cause you LIKE liking the other sex, doesnt mean you choose it i like chicken. how would i feel if someone told me that eating chicken is immoral, evil, unnatural and unnacceptible, and instead i had to eat squash all the time. i would be like wtf?! how am i supposed to know that? its just how i naturally feel! ok i think i have gotten my point accross. it will certainly be interesting reading this tomorrow morning :) and dont critisice my grammer or whatever pls cause i know what im saying and i couldnt be bothered to fix it Posted by jim on Oct. 04 2000,13:13
Oooooooooooo, I just got the eebie geebie...Sorry, seriously, that is how I naturally feel... It makes me un-easy. I don't go around beating up gay people, but I don't feel comfortable around them at all... Sorry... I know a lot of you have bashed on me for this opinion, but that doesn't change the way I natuarally feel.... ------------------ Posted by Hellraiser on Oct. 04 2000,13:40
quote: And do you suppose you'd "naturally" feel this way if our society weren't so mixed up and homophobic? Phobias like homophobia are societal and the result of upbringing, not natural at all. Suppose I grew up in a society where people of color were looked down on, would that make it "natural" for me to be uncomfortable around them? No. It isn't natural to be uncomfortable around people who are different than you; it is a societal influence on your life, one that has absolutely no place in the world today. Yet despite the fact that our society is supposedly so open toward gay people, homophobia still grips about 2/3 of our country's people (forgive me if that statistic is a little vague, the idea is that most people are still somewhat homophobic.) Is this natural? You tell me. I was raised in a part of the backwoods of NH where there was virtually no exposure to such societal influences, and currently feel no qualms around gay people. If a man tried to hit on me, I'd simply let him know I'm not interested. Otherwise, his sexuality is of no concern of mine. ------------------ Posted by jim on Oct. 04 2000,13:57
The definition of a phobia is A persistent, abnormal, or irrational fear of a specific thing or situation that compels one to avoid the feared stimulus.This doesn't make it unnatural. My dad is a HUGE racist. But I'm not. I've never heard my dad mention anything about gay people. There are many phobias in this world, I don't know why my 'fear' of gay men has to be so different from people who are afraid of the dark, or afraid to walk outside there house... If you are going to live by the philosophy of accepting all people for who they are, then you have to accept me as well. But you can't say I accept gay people because they are different, but I don't accept people who are homophobic, because they immorially different. ------------------ Posted by aventari on Oct. 05 2000,06:02
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I don't know if my dad likes gays or not, but I know he's NOT a homophobe.About the racist thing. I agree with you that he is ignorant. I'm glad you didn't call him stupid though, because that's just not true. On the other hand I sorta understand where he comes from on this issue. He grew up in a poor black neiborhood, where he was the minority, in a time when black children were raised to hate white people. So he had to put up with ass whipping and not having any friends all through growing up and being hated. By the time he started high school things were so bad that his ass whipping were now life threating. He was shot at on a constant basis, and he was even stabbed one time. He ended up having to drop out of high school. HIS dad tried to make him go back, and he ran away. But he didn't force his beliefs on me. The only time I can ever remember hating him for his beliefs is when he came home one day and I had a black friend at the house, and he told him he needed to leave. Lots of anger in that guy, but he really got shafted in childhood. ------------------ Posted by Psycizo on Jul. 14 2001,01:00
The way i see it, people are people and if people want to be attracted to people then by all means. I mean, some people like fat people and some people like skinny people, it's all about prefrence. It has nothing to do with society, some people are just more fem. or more mas. than other people. And people who are more fem. are not attracted just to people who are more mas., no matter what sex you happen to be. If we were all neut. would we care about who a person was attracted to? No. I rest my case. ------------------ Posted by kornalldaway on Jul. 14 2001,02:50
damn, another aincient thread resurrectedhell, this one is so old it even got kuru's posts in it. Psycizo, just out of curiosity, are u male or female? u apperently made it clear that u are bisexual. Posted by DeadAnztac on Jul. 14 2001,04:42
Man, I didn't realize that this thread had gotten so big... reading it over I realize how much I miss Hiro I could back him up so much better now....
Posted by PersonGuy on Jul. 14 2001,13:35
quote: By that I'm pretty sure he didn't mean, "Hell... I guess I could lend a hand..." but, "I'm God's gift... but NOT to men, silly!" But I could be wrong... ------------------ Posted by The_Stomper on Jul. 14 2001,23:34
Reading this thread, I didn't realize so many Canadians were on DetNet...My stance is this: I have no problem with gays/lesbians. I have gay/lesbian friends. I am perfectly comfortable - as long as they stay the fuck away from me sexually. (The gay ones at least - if two of my lesbian friends wanted to have a 3some ... ) That doesn't mean that I don't think that buttsex is wrong - which it IS. That's an exit-only hole, people. Jeez. Posted by Amygdala on Jul. 19 2001,02:24
I read there was some Yoga master who could sit, bare-assed, in a tub of water, and continuously spit water at a burning doll house. He only stopped when the tub was empty. I'm sure you guys can figure this one out...Talk about reverse peristalsis...And about the threesome thing...You want your homosexual friends to stay away from you homosexually...And yet you'll still do a homosexual chick because that turns you on? As a chick, I am insulted by your primitive male thinking. And I don't care if your lesbian friends would want to, if they do, they're bisexual...it's your hypocrisy that makes you seem all the more pathetic. Flame me if you want, we're all entitled to our own opinions. This is the rant forum after all. I just hope you other guys aren't as sex-crazed as the stomper. And if you are, I hope that you won't want to show it by blatantly flaming me. --amy ------------------ This message has been edited by Amygdala on July 19, 2001 at 09:26 PM Posted by PersonGuy on Jul. 19 2001,04:51
I think you're using a false analogy.( S = strait M = man G = gay W = woman ) If SM wants to do GW and GW decides it's ok, it the equivilant of GM wants to do SM and SM says it's ok. What you're saying where GM wants to do SM and SM says it's not ok is more like SM wants to do GW and GW says it's not ok. I know that's confusing... you're saying that GM want's to do SM and SM says it's not ok is that same as... er... now I've confused myself, but trust me... you're wrong... /shakes head ------------------ Posted by askheaves on Jul. 19 2001,21:23
I've figured out where my little bit of homophobia comes from. Aside from my pretty effiminate nature and denial and all that crap...It's like being in the room with a very unattractive woman. I have no interest in them, but I fear that they would have interest in me. I don't want that sort of attention. It's not a compliment to me. Same with a gay man. It's like knowing that somebody could become attracted to me, but not understand why i'm not attracted back. It's convoluted and it mixes with my selfish nature, but it's my soul-search-researched explanation for myself. Not to say that I don't get stunned when there's a really good looking guy around... but mostly that's jealousy. Who knows... I'll stick with my women. They're lots more fun. Posted by Amygdala on Jul. 19 2001,21:57
quote: GM? --amy ------------------ Posted by Amygdala on Jul. 19 2001,22:04
quote: No, what I'm saying is that most men are hypocrites by looking down on homosexuality, but are willing to have sex with lesbians only because they're women, and they think it's kinky. --amy ------------------ Posted by Sithiee on Jul. 20 2001,03:45
2 things. 1. i have to deal with that at work heaves. oh dear lord is she ugly. i tend to find other rooms to do nothing in and amy, lets be fair. you think that guys shouldnt find 2 women sexy, simply because 2 guys isnt sexy. ill refer to that seinfelf episode where jerry was dating the naked woman. theres good naked, and bad naked. women, more often than not, are good naked. men, nearly always are bad naked. like elaine point out, theres hair everywhere and theres just no flow. the point is this: i think your saying we shouldnt find 2 women hot, because you cant find 2 men hot. ------------------ quote: Posted by DeadAnztac on Jul. 20 2001,16:21
Actually, the only reason that I find 2 women having sex attractive is because, when I think about sex, I think about the other person being satisfied. Probably can dicern the rest of this thought 'cause it's a little early in the morning for me to think correctly.
Posted by Sithiee on Jul. 25 2001,00:45
ok, you got me there. i cant find a way out of my hole. except i still think my explanation explains why you call us on it. i guess it doesnt work on me, cause i dont really look down on homosecuality more than i look down on drinking or drugs. what you do in your spare time is your own business as long as it doesnt affect me.------------------ quote: Posted by Amygdala on Jul. 25 2001,05:09
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