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1.2 GHz Athlon + FIC AD11 + 400W ATX = 跊
512MB Crucial PC2100 = 贄

0wning more 0wnage than anything has ever 0wned before = priceless.

However, I don't think you should brake it off. If you can still somehow visit at least 2 times a month, you'll be ok! And if not... the relationship will mostlikey die a slow painful death. It's unfortunate, but you have to wonder: if you had lived in then new city your WHOLE life, would you have found a different THE ONE (belive it or not... there's more than 1 ONE).

All I'm saying is hope for the best, but be prepared to accept and recoginize the end, because it won't be easy to see. There's a point where you've got to just cut your losses and move on...

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"Thank you, God, for giving us leotards." -Koichi
-< PersonGuy >

This message has been edited by PersonGuy on June 30, 2001 at 08:11 PM

besides, shes probably not the one, the odds of finding the one and realizing it are probably very small.but i wouldnt really know, you shouldnt trust any advicde i have, im just a bitter little boy.

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Originally posted by Dark Knight Bob:
does anyone not notcie that sithee isnt actually talking out of his ass like a lot of people here

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There's no way to tell for sure whether or not she is The One ... I mean, I might meet some long-lost crush that still has some feelings going back & forth ...

It boils down to this - I wish I fucking knew. I wish that I had a definite "this is the girl I will marry one day" or "this is not..." in my head ... that way I could know if this was doomed or not or if it's just deemed to a slow painful death. (Thanks for the vote of confidence, PG.) If I knew then I could sort all this shit out.

But then again, if I do see other girls while I'm gone I'm sure I'll notice if something seems to be "more than normal" ... and then again my g/f may be destined to be with some other guy but if she doesn't date while I'm gone she may never find him. But if I say "we should see other people while I'm gone" - wtf do you think is going to go through her head? She's not going to think about what I described above, she's going to think I want to dump her - which I don't. I just want to know if she is the one for me.

I really need to go get fux0r3d up... but that's something that wouldn't fly well with the current girlfriend. Fuck. I just need my head cleared. Or clogged. Or whatever. Someone help me before I go fucking insane.

IMO, you're going to DEFINATEY increase the chance of this working out if you see other people! Have a serious talk with her and explain how you want to eventually end up with her and moving is simply being a victim of temporary circumstance. Tell her you should keep in touch, but seeing other people is best for the relationship.

It's going to take a lot of talking and explaining, but I think this is your best shot if you do it right. Good luck!

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"Thank you, God, for giving us leotards." -Koichi
-< PersonGuy >

In addition something about LD relationships-the most important thing is communication in situations like that. If you guys have trouble communicating how you feel than chances are it wont work. Each of you should be aware of how the other feels at all times. If you are upset by something you should tell your partner. There are many other factors as well in situations like these- like the maturity of the people in the relationship for one thing. Seeing other people wont make you realize that she is the *one* thats just something you will feel in time whether you see other people or not.

I dont think sithiee and PG are right about this because long distance relationships does not necessary mean that people are suffering. For example me--- I dont feel like I am suffering right now (he is kind of because the lack of being in close proximity to me means he doesnt get laid as often as he would like to)and Im not even in the same state as the guy I am seeing. But than when I get upset about something (and even if its something we have discussed before)we try to find a way to work it out where each of us feels like we have made a difference. Just because he isnt here doesnt mean that I dont miss him but I dont think of it like that- Im so thankful that I have him that I wouldnt want to look any place else or see anyone else just to be sure hes the *one*- because if hes not the *one* I just have to remember that every exprience teaches me something new. Heartache doesnt necessarily have to be the end all be all. All these things have a way of working themselves out for the best.

Listen to me when I say this. Stay with her and time will tell if she is the one who is meant for you.

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L'absence est ŕ l'amour ce qu'est au feu le vent; Il éteint le petit, il allume le grand.
- Comte de Bussy- Rabutin

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"Thank you, God, for giving us leotards." -Koichi
-< PersonGuy >

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