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Topic: pardon me? something's wrong here...
started by: LiNeY

Posted by LiNeY on Nov. 07 2001,18:59

Today at school we discussed movies. I said I wasn't sure whether I wanted to watch "legally blonde", because it is another one of the movies where the stupid bimbo gets the guy in the end...

Everyone started telling me that that's what life is like, too (as if I didn't know that already). My one male friend said "well, guys' minds just work like that"... I said "oh, beg pardon! You mean, intelligence and sex are mutually exclusive for a woman? Did I miss out on something in life or what?" All I got was pitiful glances and everyone, loudest of all the girls, agreed that "yes, guys just want looks".

Now, this got me a little depressed. I mean, what do you want? I've heard enough guys whining that their sexy bimbo girlfriends left them after a short time, only to let them discover what bitches they were. But then, they go for the same thing? Either guys are wrong in general, or the people I go to school with are wrong, or I am wrong. I'd just like to know which...

Tell me what guys really want. And tell me what is wrong with me that guys don't want me. I've heard advice ranging from "be more casual" over "lose 20 lbs" to "be a total mystery". All I want is honest answers I can work with.

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Posted by incubus on Nov. 07 2001,19:14

LiNeY. I know what you look like. You're pretty, you're funny, generally mmmgood. The answer you're looking for is that in general everyone you know is a fucktard in a lot of respects. If you didn't live in *.de I'd be knocking on your door right now *lol*

Don't lose hope babes, the right guy is there for you somewhere!

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Posted by afropik on Nov. 07 2001,19:38

What a guy really wants? I know personally, I like a girl that can laugh at my lameass jokes, laugh at herself, and most importantly, not be uberanal about looks. Oh, and don't lead a guy on. That just isn't fun.

Not that having a sexy bimbo girlfriend wouldn't be fun. For about two weeks. Don't worry about it, someone will show up soon enough.

Posted by kuru on Nov. 07 2001,19:46

They grow up and eventually realize that there are sexy chicks with brains.

They become really great guys and you end up flying to far off states because of 'em.

*kuru winks at a certain detnetter.

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'dancing is the vertical expression of horizontal desire.'
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Posted by Vigilante on Nov. 07 2001,19:57

The chumps would be lucky to have you, liney.

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Posted by Observer on Nov. 07 2001,21:55

quote:
Originally posted by kuru:
*kuru winks at a certain detnetter.

Looks like another opportunity here.

...and now you're feelin' really firm 'cuz the girl is stacked...

BUST A MOVE!

Hey, it's playing right now.

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This message has been edited by Observer on November 08, 2001 at 04:56 PM

Posted by kuru on Nov. 07 2001,22:00

Evil you.

Then again, I am stacked. And I missed all the innuendo of detnet...

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'dancing is the vertical expression of horizontal desire.'
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Posted by Jynx on Nov. 07 2001,22:09

Too bad you're in *.de, LiNeY--you could do with some Leykis 101...

Most guys have two modes:
1) I wanna get laid
2) I wanna relationship

If they're in Mode 1, then they're gonna go for the looks and not care if she's a total b1tch 'cause they're not after a relationship. Most guys (but not all), especially 16-25, are in this mode.

If they're in Mode 2, then they're gonna be looking for someone with a brain (looks is a close second) and, hopefully, a sense of humor.

Hope this helps...

Posted by miNus on Nov. 07 2001,23:14

*mode 3 enabled*

fapafap fap fapppppp fap!

Er, anyway, LiNeY, I can tell you for a fact that looks and brains are NOT mutually exclusive, after talking to you for quite some time.

Germans seem like f*ckwads to me (just the ones that piss you off :mad

Posted by caseman984 on Nov. 07 2001,23:41

I can't speak for my gender, but I've always wanted someone who I could talk to, someone intellgent, good sense of humor, truthful, all the basics. Sure, we guys like some eye candy, who dosn't? But I think the magnet on my friend's fridge said it best: "No matter how good she looks now, someone, somewhere, is tired of her shit."

Jynx is right about guys and their two modes. Some of us are stuck in one mode all the time tho. I'm one of the ones stuck in relationship mode, and alot of guys are stuck in sex-crazed mode, especially in my age range. If you find the right guy... one in relationship mode, you'll be happy. Trust me.

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Caseman's kewl, he sometimes makes good posts based on small observations.

Posted by afropik on Nov. 07 2001,23:59

Yeah, the two classes is dead on. Right now I'm stuck in Mode 2, and seeing all the other suckers getting nasty isn't helping one bit. Especially the idiots. Oh well.

Posted by demonk on Nov. 08 2001,00:04

There's one thing that I've noticed that might shed some light on how guys (and girls for that matter) think. Society basically tells boys from an early age that they should always want sex, and that they should always be trying to score with the hottest woman they can find. Most girls are told that all guys want is sex, and that their worth is proportional to their physically apperence. Now, none of these messages where flat out said to their face, but if you look at TV, books, and movies throught the past few decades, it's pretty easy to see this message. The problem with most of the people around you is that not only do they buy into this ass-backwards subconciously, but they also believe it conciously. And they figure that since all the people around the also think this way that it must be true. But as history (and current events) has showed us, just because a large percentage of the people around you believe something doesn't mean that it is the correct or even ethical thing to think/do. Most of the people around you will go off to college or another city and find out that most of the mature people in the world don't think the way they do. Then they will be forced to take a real look at what they believe, and then they will come to the same state of mind that you and most of the people on this board has come to: Looks are only secondary. Just relax, take pitty on the poor, uneducated fools, and take solic konwning that you will probably be one of the few, truely happy people in life because you will be with someone who you truely care about and who truely cares about you. Just ask yourself, what would you rather have: Just a pretty face who doesn't truelly give a fuck about you, or someone who may not be able to be a model, but turely cares about you for you? Quantity or Quality?

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Posted by Dark Knight Bob on Nov. 08 2001,10:44

no bullshit: guys & girls will generally end up having the most stable relationships with people that are of the same attractiveness that doesnt mean they wont try and have relationships with more attactive people but that is more based around a sexual thing. you might see guys going for gurls who are blonde bimbos but i can bet you they wont be able to have a proper stable relationship with them.

i've seen pics of you liney and i know for a fact that you dont need to lose 20ilbs or try and change your "lifestyle" cos you look great the way you are and i know for a fact that your probably way out of my league so i dont try and "hit on you". you dont need to change anything about yourslef unless YOU think you need to not if someone else does as it wont make any difference to a guy who you can actually form a proper relationship with

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Posted by Greasemonk on Nov. 08 2001,10:55

Just goes to show you. You get what you expect. They all look at it that way and thats how it will be for them. Everyone is different and is looking for different things in the opposite sex. Some people actually look for quality in person, some havent had sex in a week and need it or they will die. You just have to keep looking, not everyone is the same. It sounds like they all acted like that toward your response because they would rather conform to what everyone else was saying instead of thinking for themselves, i.e. Monkey see, Monkey do.

Never underestimate the power of stupid people in large groups...

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Posted by Chrissy on Nov. 08 2001,13:39

Legally Blonde was a *cute* movie but it also pissed me off enormously.

Being a law student (and anyone who has seen this movie and taken the LSAT or been in law school for more than 5 minutes knows this) IT IS IMPOSSIBLE TO GO FROM A 143 LSAT score to a 179 in two weeks....IMPOSSIBLE I tell you. There was no realisim in that movie what so ever, you just had to take it with a grain of salt. It was what I call a complete bubblegum movie...total fluff nothing more.
As far as your real inquiry is concerned. In time guys wise up and realise that looks only last for a short period of time and that in the end the thing that will matter is the person they can have a conversation with for the rest of their lives, if that person happens to be beautiful bonus....but I would venture to say that a man will find you beautiful if he finds you as a whole person beautiful...dont you feel the same way about guys... I would say you probably do...
its like that old Gershwin song... Someone to watch over me...the lyric goes
He may not be the man some girls think of as handsome but to my heart he carries the key.
I would say a pretty safe bet is guys think pretty much the same way.

Posted by Observer on Nov. 08 2001,13:56

quote:
Originally posted by Chrissy:
...a man will find you beautiful if he finds you as a whole person beautiful...

That's been my experience. The people I would describe as beautiful (instead of just "pretty" or "hot) have great character and are good people as a whole.

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Posted by ic0n0 on Nov. 08 2001,14:40

I just want a girl who understands me and doesn't care that i don't do "male" things like play sports, drink to excess, etc. I am a sensative person and i can not even ask girls out becasue i can't take the rejecion, i think i would cry.

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This message has been edited by ic0n0 on November 09, 2001 at 09:43 AM

Posted by Greasemonk on Nov. 08 2001,15:18

quote:
Originally posted by ic0n0:
I just want a girl who understands me and doesn't care that i don't do "male" things like play sports, drink to excess, etc. I am a sensative person and i can not even ask girls out becasue i can't take the rejecion, i think i would cry.

You can always have friends help you out. I had a friend dating this chic and he introduced me to her friend. Hot as hell, we dated for about 9 month(he broke up with his girl after a few) and that was some of the best booty ive ever had.

Dont take rejection too hard, sure it sucks but remember this. If you ask them out and they say no at least you can move on to someone who will actually date you. At least you arent wondering if they would ever say yes or no.

We had a few parties over at my place and this one chic kept stepping on my back everytime she went to get something and we talked alot alone out on the balcony. I figured maybe she might want to start dating a little. Well I got word from my roommate that she wasnt interested. So know I know to move on to the next booty.

More and more I notice women arent as picky as they used to be so you never know...and dont think a girl is too hot to go out with you. No chic is too hot.

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Posted by TheTaxMan on Nov. 12 2001,18:26

quote:
Originally posted by LiNeY:
...be a total mystery.

Ugh! Please don't do that. I hate it when women act like they're this huge enigma. *groan*

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Originally posted by RenegadeSnark:
If you have a problem with the average IQ around here, don't do things to lower it.

Posted by EvilGenius on Nov. 13 2001,02:33

LiNeY, just be yourself.. you don't need to change anything i'm sure, i don't know you, but i'm sure... eventually mr. right will come along... as for mr. right now, take a look at some of the guys you havne't been considering... but if you're like me, i don't settle for second best.

the two classes are fairly accurate.. but the notion of girls having to be incredibly attractive isn't a one way street.. guys have to overcome that same obstacle... i mean, i'm certainly not ugly, but it seems that the level of women i'm after don't take to the level of attractive ness i am. the world is shallow, and as wierd as it is to admit it, i wish i was in that world. </shallow babble>

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