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Topic: help... what does this mean?
started by: LiNeY

Posted by LiNeY on Oct. 21 2001,15:13

I have a friend, good friend. Recently he gave me a backrub (but remained a perfect gentleman thought we were both tipsy). He's always friendly with me, but sort of keeps his distance (but he does that with everyone).

Now, today, I called him because I happened to have a ticket too much for the English Theatre and he's in my English class... asked whether he'd like to come with me, because I had to get rid of the ticket. He said if I'd asked him last week, he'd have said yes at once, but he had to work 24/7 and really couldn't.

What should I think of that? I can't read guys' minds. Help me.

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C'est à cette amie que je me confie - mais c'est l'autre que j'embrasse...

Posted by DuSTman on Oct. 21 2001,15:37

Hmm. Myself I'd make of it that he's really busy and has to work 24/7.. you sure there was a hidden meaning?

This message has been edited by DuSTman on October 22, 2001 at 10:38 AM

Posted by incubus on Oct. 21 2001,15:53

This is a girl thing. Most of the time, when a guy says something, there is no hidden meaning.

If there is a hidden meaning, you can usually tell straight away (men are not very good liars) - and additionally you say the guy is nice, friendly with you etc., he has no reason to hide anything from you.

If he says he can't go ... it will be for the reason he said. Call it 'men's intuition'.

The reason you can't read men's minds is that there's nothing there to read most of the time. If they want something, they'll make it obvious - maybe not by outright saying something but if you know how to read body language most guys are an open book.

HTH!

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"just pressin y0 butt0ns f00" -- miNus

Posted by TheTaxMan on Oct. 21 2001,16:33

quote:
Originally posted by incubus:
The reason you can't read men's minds is that there's nothing there to read most of the time.

Oh man...

The truth hurts.

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Posted by j0eSmith on Oct. 21 2001,18:25

quote:
Originally posted by LiNeY:
He said if I'd asked him last week, he'd have said yes at once, but he had to work 24/7 and really couldn't.

Allow me to clarify this for you:

He really would've liked to go. BUT before you asked him, he was called in to work, leaving no time to do anything.

He's now probably cursing the world because a cute chick asked him to go to a show, and now he's stuck at work.

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Posted by LiNeY on Oct. 21 2001,18:38

quote:
Originally posted by j0eSmith:
He's now probably cursing the world because a cute chick asked him to go to a show, and now he's stuck at work.

He's now probably cursing the fact that an idiot like me has his phone number. I feel really stupid for calling him.

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C'est à cette amie que je me confie - mais c'est l'autre que j'embrasse...

Posted by Nikita on Oct. 21 2001,18:53

Bleh girl no. I agree with the guys. Well if you really like him that much and if he's really stuck at work as he says you can probably get him a souvenir/program or something, and ask him out to dinner or whatever.

Now if I would only take my own advice ...

Oh yea, however if he's consistently busy every time you ask him out and never plans a raincheck (a raincheck's like "oh man I have to work this weekend, why don't we do dinner and a movie next weekend?") ... then something's up.

Posted by LiNeY on Oct. 21 2001,19:12

This is not the US... no "dating" here. Asking a guy to go somewhere is almost equivalent to saying "I love you".

I decided I better just forget about him. T'was a crazy idea to start with...

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C'est à cette amie que je me confie - mais c'est l'autre que j'embrasse...

Posted by Nikita on Oct. 21 2001,19:16

The hell? No dating? Sure there is! There were plenty of couples around the school I went to ... oh well, you would know better ...

Posted by LiNeY on Oct. 21 2001,19:25

COUPLES!!! Yes! Of course there are!!! But, it's not like you can go to the movies or something with a guy just like that. Either, you're going steady, or you're not going at all! I've broken that "law" before, but usually rumours ensued...

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C'est à cette amie que je me confie - mais c'est l'autre que j'embrasse...

Posted by just_dave on Oct. 21 2001,19:46

No he is probablly waiting on you to call again or something. Most the time if a guy says "I gotta do so and so" its the truth, cause most guys wont diss a hot chick unless something is bad wrong or hes giving you the truth... call him again

edit: I can spell mommy look at me!!

This message has been edited by just_dave on October 22, 2001 at 02:47 PM

Posted by Hellraiser on Oct. 21 2001,21:42

quote:
Originally posted by LiNeY:
I decided I better just forget about him. T'was a crazy idea to start with...

You'll get no where by doing that. Better to risk losing and lose than do nothing and lose by default. Of course, I need to practice what I preach more... I'm chicken when it comes to girls. Buccaw!

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Posted by incubus on Oct. 21 2001,22:05

here is liney's predicament:

LiNeY : Hot single girl. Wants a guy.

Problem : Lives in a culture that doesn't think 'dating' is cool. Therefore LiNeY has to either

1. stay single (boooo)
2. put all her eggs in one basket and pair up with a guy shes not sure about.

Solution :

Post below. Personally I think she should move over here, but I'm biased.

What do we do when our culture supresses our desires?

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"just pressin y0 butt0ns f00" -- miNus

Posted by miNus on Oct. 21 2001,22:31

No, she should move over HERE.

Don't make me kick y0 ass f00.

(edit: Just in case someone flames me not realizing it, )

This message has been edited by miNus on October 22, 2001 at 05:31 PM

Posted by blanalex on Oct. 22 2001,00:08

No, she moves HERE!! She already know the place and the language!

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Posted by Hellraiser on Oct. 22 2001,01:04

Damnnit! She moves HERE! I need a girlfriend.

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Old farts never die, they just get blown away.

Posted by askheaves on Oct. 22 2001,01:33

Curses, she moves here!!!!

Yeah... I'm smoother than all ya'll.

(I want to fit in)

Posted by Vigilante on Oct. 22 2001,01:40

We're not worthy.

Posted by EvilGenius on Oct. 22 2001,01:46

wherever a girl should decide to go, don't move to florida, unless you want 10 guys to 1 girl ratio wherever you go.. :

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Posted by Beldurin on Oct. 22 2001,02:49

quote:
Originally posted by LiNeY:
COUPLES!!! Yes! Of course there are!!! But, it's not like you can go to the movies or something with a guy just like that. Either, you're going steady, or you're not going at all! I've broken that "law" before, but usually rumours ensued...

Umm...if it's either going steady or not at all, how do relationships get started? Don't people just "hang out?"

Here's an idea, do you have any mutual friends? Get some people together (you and him included) and go out as a group of friends having a good time. The upshot is that there are no rumors and you get a chance to spend time with him and feel him out so to speak to see if you want to date him.

Just my 2 cents, and this coming from a guy who still doesn't know why he got dumped 2 weeks ago (and no, I don't think that it's because I'm a loser...exactly)

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Give me ambiguity or give me something else...

Posted by kixzor2 on Oct. 22 2001,10:01

Hey Liney,
How bout just ask him out again next weekend?
If he's 'really busy' again - then maybe
somethings up.
But you never know till ya find out.

Beldurin has a point too -
thats how I meet my way cool boyfriend

This message has been edited by kixzor2 on October 23, 2001 at 05:04 AM

Posted by veistran on Oct. 22 2001,20:31

quote:
Originally posted by incubus:
Most of the time, when a guy says something, there is no hidden meaning.
If there is a hidden meaning, you can usually tell straight away (men are not very good liars) - and additionally you say the guy is nice, friendly with you etc., he has no reason to hide anything from you.

so very, very true... I wish I could lie like a woman.

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- Sarcasm is just one more of the free services that we offer.

Posted by Beldurin on Oct. 22 2001,22:32

quote:
Originally posted by veistran:
so very, very true... I wish I could lie like a woman.

You mean to me?

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Give me ambiguity or give me something else...

Posted by DeadAnztac on Oct. 22 2001,23:05

Go! Get the guy! Go after him! Sick your hot lady like skills on him

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~Anztac [ I'm just this guy, you know? ]

Posted by solid on Oct. 23 2001,02:38

quote:
Originally posted by veistran:
so very, very true... I wish I could lie like a woman.

Uhm.. no, it's not such a great big task.. just watch for details and set up alabi's (sp)

Or, you can bawl your eyes out and/or get mad at the person for thinking you're lying to them- bawling your eyes out may not be very effective .