Topic: Things to try out
started by: portrman
So post away!!! Now I don't plan on actually intercourse, so don't need any of that stuff. But everything else goes. =)
Nothing like a good spooning.
But, please, you wanker. Don't get all excited about having a gf and do all the public displays of affection stuff. If makes everybody uncomfortable and sickens them. I mean, I really hate that and I've had to witness it too many times. Yuck.
1st base:
Kissing
Also know as above the shoulders... touch her hair... massage her neck... traid hickies... it's all good.
2nd base:
Breast touching
Also know as about the waist... just go for it!... but please make sure that you don't do it like you're tuning a radio or handling a peice of scientific equiptment (what I've heard)... any chicks out there who can give advice on how YOU want the breast manhandling to go?
3rd base:
Fingering/Hand jobs
Also know as below the waist... I haven't made it this far, so I can't help you... but as far as I can tell, in modern America, oral sex also comes under third base (although it used to be 5th)
4th base:
duh!
Anywaze, as for side trip to the "bases":
When dancing make sure to do a tiny bit of groping.
When watching TV make sure you're "touching"... whether it be side by side, hands, or arm over shoulder... keep the contact going.
Make sure that at some point you REALLY look into her eyes at nose to nose range (but don't do it more than twice or it gets creepy). 1) Some how that's a good assment of her (don't ask me how THAT works, but it does) 2) Chicks dig that 3) It gives you a chance to tell her how pretty they are.
When ordering icecream, wait for her to order first... then say, "OH! I wanted the same thing, we should just get a big one on a cone and share!" (that doesn't work with banana splits... but if she's ordering banana splits you'd better watch out for fatness anyway!)
TICKLING! WHEE! Don't take it too far though...
Ok, hope that helps... I'm out of ideas for the second over here.
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for example, the rollercoaster scene in "fear" (if you don't know, the guy fingers his gf on a rollercoaster). anything like that in public is great, b/c the knowledge that you could get caught makes it all the more fun. another example, fingering or oral sex on the bus ride back from prom (if you take buses, as we did...)
basically, anything like that in a public place is really fun. showering and naked jacuzzi's, too...
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brodie
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anyways, good call PersonGuy. the bases (with the 5th tagged on) is a good way to work. and lord knows i could have behaved better when i went to a concert this weekend with my gf. and last time we went to the cinema...
one thing to remember is not to overdo it on third. start with one finger. if she obviously wants more, then move up by one. if she seems comfortable, stay there for a while. leave a time gap (i.e. days) before trying with more. she'll appreciate it.
but NEVER push anything she dosen't seem 417\% happy with.
[moralHighGround]
remember, kiddies. there's more to life than sex. it's fine to let sex revolve around a relationship - don't let a relationship revolve around sex. unless you're just after a quick fuck. in which case, a new partner every night is alot more cost effective.
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--directhex
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The master has no need for money. And yet he sits and counts it. As a meditation.
-The Book of Cataclysm
just spend time with your girl, be affectionate, and it'll flow for you how it does. there's nothin worse than a guy who has a "playbook" hidden under the bed.
altho, backrubs, bubble baths, makin out a lot, and sleepin naked in the same bed are really great.
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kuru
'sex is one of the most beautiful and natural things that money can buy' - steve martin
MAKE A MALE VIRGIN SLEEP NAKED IN THE SAME BED AS A NAKED WOMAN AND NOT HAVE SEX!!!!! 
Tourture I say! Scratch that off the list! If Stalin didn't think of that one... shame on him!
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Personal Guy, thx for the reminder of the base thing, and yes it is cruel to be in bed and not have sex, but I must put a line someplace and that was the only thing that I don't want to do YET!!!! Im proud I have lasted this long and want it to last a while longer.
--directhex
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The master has no need for money. And yet he sits and counts it. As a meditation.
-The Book of Cataclysm
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-- incubus
As I chase the leaves like the words I never find ...
Again, don't get me wrong, it's great to just sleep (or hang out) naked with a chick! But if you've NEVER had sex with HER (or worse you NEVER had sex AT ALL) I say TORTURE!!!
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jim
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Sex doesn't have to be this big of a deal.
Seriously!! You are talking about being naked in shower, and in the bed, and everything except the actual act of intercourse. What is the big deal?
And it's sorta true that sex can be the basis for a bad relationship. But that is limited to relationships that were built off of sex. Which is NOT the case here.
I'm not telling you, you have to go have sex with this woman. I'm only asking why you are NOT having sex with this woman.
So far, I'm only 19, and it will ruin my relationship, are not really satisfactory answers.
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jim
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quote:
Originally posted by portrman:
Demonk, your a bastard if you think that that would be wonderful torture!! Sleeping naked would be fun, but I really don't think it would be torture. I mean, damn! I would be laying next to the girl I love. It can't get much better then that! So just shut up demonk.
What's up with you portrman? Well, I guess for someone who is probably a pasty white computer geek who doesn't do anything but play with their computer all day it wouldn't be torture, but something new. But I bet everything with a girl would be new to someone like you. So you shut the fuck up!
This message has been edited by demonk on November 08, 2000 at 01:24 PM
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calm down fella! you'll give yourself a skin faliure!
--dr nick riviera
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it's fine to let sex revolve around a relationship - don't let a relationship revolve around sex.
--me
there's PLEANTY of sexual stuff you can do without intercourse. see PersonGuy's stuff, for example. and just doing stuff like showering or sleeping together is great. really. sex does change relationships, if they really are relationships. but not necessarily in a bad way. lord knows WE didn't exactly wait long. *counts on fingers* just under two months. but we've still lasted for a helluva long time, we're still going strong, and we still enjoy nothing more than each others' company. portrman's opinions i respect. very honorable to care so much about what she feels. let me put it this way: in my experience, you only get what you give 
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--directhex
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The master has no need for money. And yet he sits and counts it. As a meditation.
-The Book of Cataclysm
And directhex, your absolutely correct and thx for the advice. Intercourse maybe fun, but will definatly change any relationship, even if showers and sleeping naked together is a part of that relationship. Society has grounded into our minds that intercourse is a hugh leap and should not be taken lightly. For once I agree with society.
Long story short, yay score, we stayed together off and on for 4 more years, and she is still my best friend in the world (even though she's on the other side of the country). If your relationship with a girl is so shaky that it can't handle sex, what the hell are you doing? You're 19 years old, obviously don't get her pregnant, and hopefully this isn't the last girlfriend you have before you die. Be young, have fun, drink Pepsi.
I really can't explain how I feel, but I think that people that lay a blanket of 'no sex until I'm married' with any potential relationships is a fool. It will only cause resentment and guilt if you go through with it, and resentment and guilt for denying yourself something if you don't.
#include <stddisclaimer.h>
quote:
Originally posted by askheaves:
If your relationship with a girl is so shaky that it can't handle sex, what the hell are you doing?
A relationship can be perfectly healthy without sex, if both people have agreed to wait until marriage. You shouldn't assume that anyone who is dating someone should be having sex with them unless someething is wrong with the relationship.
On the other hand, if your relationship is so shaky that you can't talk about sex, that's a problem. But if you discussed it and agree to put it off, that's just fine.
And the idea that a relationship is to shaking to withstand sex is not a good relationship, I would have say that is stupid and ignorent of you. Are u saying askheavens that 14 year olds should either have sex or break up? I sure hope not!
I am glad for what she and I have. Sure going to intercourse would be fun in the future, but yes it would be a bad idea right now for the both of us. I am just a 2nd year student in college and to become a computer eng in this day and age requires an ton of schooling, which would likely not be possible if a baby would come my way. I appriecte the time you put into your reply askheavens, but a little thought about what you were saying is important. Especially when talking to someone that has never had intercourse. I don't mean that as a person bash, but as contrustive critism =)
So back to the reason I started this thread!! Anyone know of any fun thing that she and I could do??? Shower, oral sex and sleeping together naked is good, but what else. Come on now, I have read alot of this forum, I know there are perves out there, hehe, come on Kuru, where is your oh so wise knowledge!!!
In addition, I agree with you Michael. There needs to be communication, damnit.
Edit: screwed up the Clerks quote...
This message has been edited by askheaves on November 08, 2000 at 07:29 PM
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kuru
'sex is one of the most beautiful and natural things that money can buy' - steve martin
potrman - eat dat pussy! guaranteed results. just dont bite...well just a little and not too hard.
reman
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Cheers =)
If you don't feel ready for sex, then ABSOLUTELY POSSITIVELY DON'T! But if any second you think your ready, then don't overthink it. Go with your gut on this one whatever it says. Sex does change relationships, but be carful... it's still going to change it even if it's 10 years from now, and you might want to get past that "change" before you get too much further. Know what I mean?
Mikey-man (previously know as Mikey), is right. Have you actually communicated about sex with her? If not I really think that might be a big problem. So long as you've disscussed the fact that you aren't then it's fine.
Hmmm... ok. I think I have mixed feelings, and kuru made me REALLY think about it. So here's what I got...
BEFORE sex, sleeping naked with = that feels good! Skin on skin! Why aren't we having sex? Let's do it now! No, lets wait! Now! No! Go! Wait! Go! Stay! ... anyway, the fun part is that you're NOT having sex, but some how it seems more like suspence. Not to say that suspence is bad, but there's something inherantly wierd about it like you're lying to yourself... I don't know...
AFTER sex, sleeping naked with = ahhh... sence of security... that feels good...
ANYWAY, back to the topic at hand...
Footsy at the table... ALWAYS fun...
Back in Virgina, they used to have hay-rides. In the cold of the fall, couples bring a bunch of blankets and ride around in the back of a truck at night. You get the veiw, you get the cuddling, you get the fun of being with friends/beer, and you get to do stuff under the blankets! It sounds crazy, but it's THE BEST.
Make sure you do that, seriously!
Shave eachothers most privatest parts.
Roll down a BIG grassy hill.
Sing show tunes (if one knows how to play the piano).
Go into a Halmark store and show each other cards.
Spanking! Just a little here and there.
Goto a strip club if you both find it sexy, but NO lap dances I say!
Goto different libraries and meet in a chat room! There's something totally fun about freaking out everyone else in there together! 
Goto the beach! (don't 'member where you live...)
Take a workshop of mutual intrest together.
How'd I do?
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Cheers =)
quote:
Originally posted by portrman: about "spooning"
...I hope that is what it is or else I will be beating demonk a bit, hehe
I'm not exactly an authority in this area, but I thought that "spooning" just meant clowning around, "public displays of affection" etc... This is the meaning of the word that I was aware of, but maybe it's changed a bit in recent years, I don't know. Perhaps someone who actually knows could take the time to enlighten us...
some more suggestions :
- leave a message on her machine immediately after she leaves your house, so she'll get it when she gets home.
- go out in public and mess with people's minds together. Make sure they don't know you're messing with them.
- picnics kick ass. bring a portable stereo & some mellow tunes.
- shop together. Make sure you have an opinion on the clothes she picks out. Women HATE it when guys say "I don't care."
- be excellent to each other, and party on, dude.
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--directhex
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The master has no need for money. And yet he sits and counts it. As a meditation.
-The Book of Cataclysm
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Originally posted by floyd:
There is but one flaw with your spooning! In case you forgot, the dude wants to know stuff other than sex...with the guy behind the girl...well, shit, who could blame him if he popped a stiffy! HELLLOOOOOOOOOOO
ok, so...... if i "pop a stiffy" around my gf, we're gonna have sex? we both decided that we're not yet, so we don't. but handjobs are fun. spooning is great! and if mr winky gets excited, ... i'm sure they'll find something to do
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brodie
Now every face, it looks familiar...
then every face would melt away until now...
everyone, do you know, I know your deception?
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Damn!! still can't think of a good one
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quote:
Originally posted by PersonGuy:MAKE A MALE VIRGIN SLEEP NAKED IN THE SAME BED AS A NAKED WOMAN AND NOT HAVE SEX!!!!!
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They say "You think your good don't you".
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