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Topic: Women and orgasm problems.
started by: whtdrgn_2

Posted by whtdrgn_2 on Feb. 21 2001,14:29

How many women experience problems having an orgasm?

Some women I have been with have had so maney I lost count, but others just can't do it. When I asked them about it they tell me, "A guy has never been able to bring me to orgasm." Is this normal, or a sexual disfuction. Something like a self confidence problem, or are they just not atuned to thereselves?

Or am I really just that bad?

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Posted by jim on Feb. 21 2001,15:47

They have a problem!

There are lots of books for women on how to have an orgasm or multiple ones for that matter.

There are certain exercises they can do with their P muscles or whatever that not only benefit them, but you as well!!!

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Posted by askheaves on Feb. 21 2001,18:17

Dr. Ruth says that the most important sex organ is between the ears.

Posted by damien_s_lucifer on Feb. 21 2001,18:54

quote:
Originally posted by whtdrgn_2:
Or am I really just that bad?

Bingo!

Nah, some women just can't seem to come. Sucks for them.

Posted by Dark Knight Bob on Feb. 21 2001,21:47

quote:
Originally posted by askheaves:
Dr. Ruth says that the most important sex organ is between the ears.

yeah blowjobs rule >:]

yeah yeah i got what you meant

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Hey DKB shu'p with all that jibba jabber ya crazy foo!

Posted by solid on Feb. 22 2001,01:23

Some who can't seem to come probably can't because they never made themselves come.

Posted by Rol3x on Feb. 22 2001,01:49

I have a theory that all women masturbate, and that only the ones that admit they do, are the ones that are really good in bed. unfortunatly, we have a lot of liars out there.

This message has been edited by Rol3x on February 22, 2001 at 08:56 PM

Posted by kai on Feb. 22 2001,02:38

dude, Rol3x. your all like back and stuff.

/i hope no one else noticed yet, cuz then i'd feel dumb./

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What if there were no hypothetical questions?

Posted by solid on Feb. 22 2001,02:40

I wouldn't exactly say it's right for a woman just tell a guy she masturbates.

Hey there's only one way to find out if she's good in bed!

Posted by kai on Feb. 22 2001,02:42

no one else noticed!

i feel special

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What if there were no hypothetical questions?

Posted by kuru on Feb. 22 2001,04:14

yeah, chicks can do exercises called Kegels to tone up the muscles inside their vaginas, making the vagina tighter. this really won't help if anything clitoris related, so if masturbating her won't bring her off, i don't know what to tell you.

i would suggest for HER to masturbate more, figure exactly what gets her off, and then tell YOU exactly how to do it.

that seems to be the best method toward finding satisfaction.

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kuru
'dancing is the vertical expression of horizontal desire.'
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Posted by nInabLaDe on Feb. 22 2001,05:36

i never had that problem......
it's mostly mental though. i've found as a woman, the physical part is only like half of it, because you can stimulate something that is so sensitive that she wants to kick you off of her by reflex and she still won't have an orgasm. that and orgasms happen in varying quantities and levels.

This message has been edited by nInabLaDe on February 22, 2001 at 12:37 PM

Posted by Chrissy on Feb. 22 2001,11:26

Ive never had a problem. I will tell you though when I was 17 I had no idea what an orgasm was, nontheless have one. That changed though and I started to find out what feels good- thats really where its at you know- I think everyone woman has to ability to have an orgasm- you just have to find the right way to do it.

My boyfriend always asks where I liked to be touched best- I always point to my heart and say "right here"- thats the most important I think. a.h Dr. Ruth is right the most important sexual organ is the brain.

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Posted by ic0n0 on Feb. 22 2001,12:47

It does seem unfair that guys can get off all the time, anywhere any place, and women have to be in the mood and have the right mind set. Is a women's orgasm more intense than a man's? I have no idea. That might explain the difficulty reaching it, that and men generally don’t care if their partners get off I’m not saying that all guys are insensitive only most.

Posted by Observer on Feb. 22 2001,13:18

I think that it's more the case that the societal structure of taboos and such have made many women feel sexually repressed. That was part of the motivation for the writing of "The Vagina Monologues," enabling women to openly discuss their own sexuality.

As a generalization, there is less of a stigma associated with a guy who admits he masturbates, where women who say they do are seen as somehow...dirty. It's not right, but that's the structure in place right now.

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Posted by jim on Feb. 22 2001,15:48

I think a woman can openly discuss masterbation these days!

At least all the women I know will. I think that time is looong gone.

We laugh about my g/f's "jack-rabbit" dildo all the time.

She was moving a long time ago and this guy Steve was removing the drawers from her dresser and saw the dildo and freaked out. He was so embarresed to have seen that.

I feel lucky because my woman would much rather have me get her off than do it solo. She knows I'm always willing. Sometimes she doesn't want the dick and has me use the Jack Rabbit on her or just the tongue. It's her knew improved way to masterbate!

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jim
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Posted by solid on Feb. 23 2001,00:39

There's also a kegels for men. Intensifies orgasm.. that or it makes you last longer. Both of which can be advantagous.

Posted by whtdrgn_2 on Feb. 26 2001,13:33

They tell prgnant women to do kegals as well. In fact, I got stickers to post around the house reminding my X to do her kegals. That got me very bad looks... go figure.

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Posted by PersonGuy on Mar. 03 2001,00:35

MOST (meaning more than half) of women between 16 and 25 won't be able to orgasm through JUST intercourse. A few won't be able to orgasm AT ALL untill after 25. A SMALL amount NEVER will.

Woman's sexuallity is wired differently than men. Alot of it has to do with their minds. They have to be in the right place with the right person.

Masturbation is also different because a big part of a woman's sexuality is intimacy.

For someone who's having trouble you have 3 options:

1) Go with oral sex till you get close, then try and finish with intercourse.

2) Work on masturbating to see what works best for you. Then get you man do it!

3) Find a guy you REALLY REALLY like and stick with him for a while. Make sure you're not just faking and that you communicate what YOU need.

There ya go!

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Posted by Nene on Mar. 04 2001,15:02

oooo...I sure have been missing some good topics. I beg forgiveness from the DetNet Gods. :P

At any rate:

Person Guy hit is pretty close to the mark. Must be over 27.

1. No, you cannot just ram your heart away and expect a girl to get one.
2. Yes, the girl needs to know what the heck is going on with her own body. The misfortune is that our zones are placed in an inconvenient area for ordinary intercourse. It is a complete and total drag.
3. Yes, girls fake it. You will KNOW without a DOUBT when you help her get an orgasm. If it occurs for you to ask if she got one, then you didn't do it.

Me personally? Yes, I used to have a lot of problems getting one.

Sometimes it sucks being a girl.

Nene

This message has been edited by Nene on March 05, 2001 at 10:03 AM

Posted by incubus on Mar. 04 2001,16:21

One of the easiest ways i've seen that its a dead giveaway of an O on her side of things is a big red patch on her chest and neck ... somehow it makes the blood rush up there lol

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As I chase the leaves like the words I never find ...

Posted by melk0r on Mar. 07 2001,22:50

i think its just that its whether a girl is in tune with herself or not. its the same with female masturbation.. they have to seriously not see anything wrong with it, or not be ashamed of it, before they can EVEN get any pleasure. this is just an outside opinion, but an educated one.

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Posted by ic0n0 on Mar. 07 2001,23:34

in reply to the topic, i would enjoy being anywhere near a female orgasm.

Posted by Dark Knight Bob on Mar. 07 2001,23:54

return of the jedi -

"SHES GONNA BLOW!!!!"

"INTENSIFY FORWARD FIRING POWER I DONT WANT ANYTHING TO GET THROUGH...TOO LATE!"

"YOUR SKILLZ ARE COMPLETE"

LOL AND THIS ONE FITS IN WITH THE TOPIC QUITE NICELY

"SO YOU HAVE A TWIN SISTER...IF YOU WILL NOT TURN TO THE DARKSIDE THEN PERHAPS SHE WILL"

its so much fun fitting star wars into sex

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Hey DKB shu'p with all that jibba jabber ya crazy foo!

Posted by Chrissy on Mar. 08 2001,11:58

^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^ ^

You have way too much time on yer hands bud

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"I ated the purple berries...they tasted like burning"

Posted by Jynx on Mar. 08 2001,18:19

quote:
Originally posted by ic0n0:
in reply to the topic, i would enjoy being anywhere near a female orgasm.

Lemme tell ya, it's a blast. Literally.

Seriosly, tho', every single guy should do their LEVEL BEST to give their girl The Big O. Guys who just use 'em for a "warm hole" (thanx Ch1ck1e ) are missing out on the best part of the sex.

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--Jynx

I used to be a kleptomaniac, but then I took something for it.