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Forum: The Classroom Topic: Seeing\Talking to an ex started by: Chrissy Posted by Chrissy on Jun. 20 2001,22:03
Ok- this is so fucked up. It seems that when ever I see or speak to one of my exs (either on the phone or on line) I always invariably seeing another either going to work, home from work or when I am out with friends. Case in point.Last night I was on line talking to a friend of mine. My ex boyfriend (who hasnt been on line in ages) came on too. He and I started talking about things-- the usual-- life, work, school etc. Today on my way home from work (I take the bus to where I park my car to save money on parking fees and gas etc) on the bus I was playing with my new iPAQ- screwing around with something or other and when I pulled the thing to have the bus driver stop I saw my ex boyfriend from freshman year- my very first hard core love! (That breakup was such a mess I cried for almost 2 months straight) I havent seen him in about 2 years (and he still looks just as good as the day we met) He and I havent spoken in any capacity since I was a Sophomore in college. Anyway had I noticed him earlier I would have been more uneasy but because I only noticed him seconds before I got off the bus it was a little easier. He was sitting up in front and I was sitting more towards the back. When I got off the bus I tapped him on the knee waved hi, he waved hi back and that was it. The only thing that saved me from feeling like a total loser was that I was really busy fucking around with the iPAQ. I guess what I want to know is. Had I noticed him earlier (or lets say I see him out at a bar or tomorrow on the bus again) what do I do... I feel like I am in a no win situation with this one because- if I am *rude* and dont say hi he thinks its because I am holding a grudge (4 years I think not) from his breaking up with me. If I get chatty with him he ll get an ego (I ve been down this road with him before - he thinks my being nice implies that I still want him). So what do I do. I know in the next three years that I am here going to Law School he and I are bound to run into each other- the same thing with my other ex (the one I saw on line last night) I just dont know how to approach them. The truth is I have interests elsewhere right now and have no interest in persuing either one of them-- but if I tell either one of them that it seems like I am trying to convince them...ugh so frustrating....any advice would be welcomed. By the way I wasnt too sure which forum this should go into- sex or rants or what so thats why its here since most people seek general advice in the classroom forum... ------------------ Posted by PersonGuy on Jun. 20 2001,23:30
I think the tap and the 'hi' was perfectly appropriate. But if you notice him on the bus again, just wave and you're fine.It sounds like you didn't have a lot of closer on your relationship and probably have a lot of unresolved feelings. So if you end up seeing him daily, I bet it would be good for you to have breakfast with him (mabey with some friends) once. That's my advice... ------------------ Posted by SLATE on Jun. 21 2001,02:47
Perhaps if you see him again and somehow manage to have a convo, ask him if he's seeing anyone, and tell him you are,a nd you've been for a while now..good luck Posted by Wolfguard on Jun. 21 2001,09:50
find out where he and his friends hang out. Put on your slutiest outfit and "Bump" into him. Take one of his friends home.Im sure he will get the idea that you are still friendly with him but have no intrest in him anymore. ------------------ Posted by CatKnight on Jun. 21 2001,12:08
i think you should probably put more effort into finding a new guy and making a good relationship rather then focusing on the past and how you can remain friends with your ex's. just stay away from them and make no contact. thats what i would want.
Posted by Greasemonk on Jun. 21 2001,14:25
Im sure he doesnt hold a grudge. I swear I saw my ex drive by my house checking out my new car the other day. I saw her go by from my backyard but by the time i got out there she was gone...------------------ Posted by Chrissy on Jun. 21 2001,18:39
Well- I don't think I would ever date him again. I've only dated one of my ex's again. I figure there was a reason why we aren't together any more.I don't need to be with someone to feel like my life is successful. I am not in the habit of making people feel jealous so the point of me "finding someone new" is kind of moot. Besides I did say I had interests elsewhere anyway. I just hate that uncomfortable feeling I get when I see him. I never know how to approach him because of our history. *shrug* ------------------ |