I'm scared. And I keep telling myself that I need to do this. And I know I have to. But...I'm just scared. Scared cuz, if I lose Denise during this period, I won't make it. If I don't have a job, I won't make it. If I don't figure things out by March 30 (Winter semester deadline), I will not make it. And of all things in the world...I'm scared of not succeeding...in life, in love, in work.

I just want to go into a corner and stay there forever.

This message has been edited by Vulu on May 09, 2001 at 11:06 AM

Education, Denise or something else?

If you choose Denise, then why not go to the same college as her.. Wouldn't that make it easier? I mean, you might not like the college that much, but wouldnt the sacrifice be worth being with the one you love?

Let me tell you a little story.. Its kinda cute/romantic.

my best friend jessica, her parent's were HS sweethearts.. then they broke up and went to college.. while at college, they saw other people.. One day at a company meeting, they happened to bump into each other.. He proposed to her shortly after (a matter of days). They are now living happily ever after...
isnt that sweet?

Anyways, if you are willing to take the risk of losing her, then go to college... I wouldnt recommend taking time off... You're going to lose the momentum...

Good luck to you..

BTW, bleh is my word.. don't ever EVER EVER use it again, please

SLATE

quote:

---

Originally posted by Sithiee:
march 30?? its may buddy.

---

duh.... next year!!!

Tuition at psu for me is > ฤk a year. I can't afford it really, but it's the school I HAVE to go to. So, my parents are paying half (about as much as in-state tuition for UMD) and I'm getting loans for the other half. Sure, I'll be paying them off for 10 years or more after college, but it won't be a big deal. I think it's worth it in the long run.

As for the leaving your girlie behind...thats a toughy. It's hard to tell wether you really love her or if it's just a 17 year old's infatuation. I know when I first moved out in the fall I was sad to leave all my friends, and a few girl friends who I thought were potential soul mates. Since I got to college though, I found out it's such a huge campus anything is possible. I've met a couple girls up there that I've pretty much fallen for at one time or another. My point is, you don't necessarily need to be worried about leaving your high-school sweetheart behind. My parents met at UMD and got married after the graduated...

------------------
<<Insert profound thought here>>

You can't let your major life decisions revolve around a young relationship. Not unless you're willing to let all of your life decisions revolve around her... and she's prepared to do the same. That's a committed relationship, and I doubt that's what you're in.

Life sucks when you change your life around someone, and they're gone in a month.

If you're worried about having somebody there, don't. There's at least hundreds of women in the world. Chances are, you'll bump into another one in the next 75 years of your life.

Don't get off track with your life. It's not worth mucking with that stuff. You will make it without Denise.

It's not just her going to college and me deciding not to. It's the fact that I don't have the answers when I should. I should know what I want to do right now. I should know what I want to accomplish. But I DON'T.

Love is not a term I throw around loosely. When I said it - I mwant it. I've dated my fair share of girls, and the thought of Love never crossed my mind. But She is different. She's ambitious, intelligent, beautiful, funny, and all this other shit. We really clicked. She's only dated one other guy; she's had opportunity to date more, but she didn't want to. I feel if this I was 5 years older, I'd ask her to marry me...and I know she's say yes.

I've got my parents breating down my ass crack...I have to make 񘐜 by the middle of June so I can go to Austria with Her...and I still don't know what I'm going to do when March 30 (2002 Sithiee) rolls around.

I hope I don't sound like a whiney, little, punk, 17-year-old...

Yes, she will meet new people. Yes, she is going to change. You will change too. A lot.

Tethering her is not going to keep your relationship afloat. It will work, or it wont.

Don't hide in a corner, plan the best you can and do the best you can. As far as knowing what you want to do, I can sympathize. I made it all the way though college and THEN decided I wanted to do something else.

This message has been edited by Nene on May 09, 2001 at 02:25 PM

Not trying to rain on your parade or anything, but lets say it doesnt work out between you two.. Its 10 years from now.. and you never went to college, or you went to some shitty college or something. You weren't able to do waht you wanted to do in life because of a mistake when you were younger.. Is it worth that?

ARG! Whatever. I guess I'll figure things out.

Anyways, best of luck.

------------------
When my flying days are over, and my death has come to pass
I hope they bury me upside down, so the whole damn world can kiss my ass

Thanks.

Some of my fondest memories of university, and some of the things I considered most interesting in lectures & courses come from courses not even *vaguely* related to Major..

Try the odd stuff, it tends to be fun (and lotsa *really* nice babes take english first year, for some reason, at least down here )

Be Well...

Tony

------------------
Vi Forever! (or at least till you figure out how to quit..)

I'll hand in my application for Social Science or Creative Arts - winter semester...after that - I have no idea what's going on...left, right...I see no difference...

Thanks alot guys.

------------------
Homer as Krusty episode:

lil kid: STOP IT STOP IT he's already dead!

quote:

---

Originally posted by Sithiee:
hes got the urge!

---

to herbal

quote:

---

Originally posted by CatKnight:
i think the average is twice per person in 4 years.

---

Nice to know I'm average

Does it count if I changed once, then changed back? I had to... I hate blood.

I knew what I wanted to do when I was 15. Now I'm doing a PhD in the same area.

One track mind hey?

------------------
"A woman is always buying something" - Ovid (43? B.C. - 18 A.D.)

edit: I misspelt 'from'. *hits self with 2x4*
------------------
When my flying days are over, and my death has come to pass
I hope they bury me upside down, so the whole damn world can kiss my ass

This message has been edited by j0eSmith on May 11, 2001 at 10:25 PM

But remember, you are the most important person to yourself. You trust yourself the most. You rely on your instintcs, not others. You are the only person that can have the final say on what happens with your life. 'Cause it's yours, and no one elses.

------------------
"If at first it doesn't work, get a bigger hammer."
-Dad

This message has been edited by Blowgoats on May 12, 2001 at 11:04 AM

I did however frequently change my mind about what I wanted to do with the rest of my life (Law school or PhD)we all know how that ended up.

I don't think it's so important now knowing what you want to major in--you always have options...thats the great thing about living in a free society- lots of choices (it may be the only reason I don't start a Marxian revolution to Communism). When you are just beginning the journey- its hard to imagine the end of it.

But I tend to find the the journey itself is more important than the destination.

------------------
<<Insert profound thought here>>

------------------
Only you can prevent forum fires.

------------------
.:< JB >:.

------------------
"I expected just a little bit too much from the wounded" -Maynard James Keenen

A Perfect Circle