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Topic: a close friend...
started by: Dark-Angel99

Posted by Dark-Angel99 on Oct. 17 2001,06:38

Tonight I got a phone call and found out that a friend of mine died in a car accident tonight. I'm still in shock. This is my third friend to die in 2 years... The older I get, the more my friends die. It really opens your eyes to what can really happen. God I hope I'm not next. They all died when they were 20, sucks don't it...

Posted by Jimi on Oct. 17 2001,07:37

Oh man thats Harsh, I feel for you I really do, I know what it's like to loose someone close to you.

But I found occupational theropy is helpful, I just tried to kep myself busy.

Posted by Dark-Angel99 on Oct. 17 2001,18:22

< http://www.bakersfield.com/top/story/727460p-766436c.html >

Here is some info about it.
My other close friend Adam was the passanger.
< http://www.iknowbakersfield.com/homearticle.asp?id=21859§ion=home&network=bakersfield >

This message has been edited by Dark-Angel99 on October 18, 2001 at 01:23 PM

Posted by The_Black_Mage on Oct. 17 2001,18:43

that sucks man..... keep your head up and dont drive like a maniac and you'll be fine

Posted by Dark-Angel99 on Oct. 17 2001,18:52

Im a female, just thought you newbies would like to know.

Posted by The_Black_Mage on Oct. 17 2001,19:20

quote:
Originally posted by Dark-Angel99:
Im a female, just thought you newbies would like to know.

i could tell by your name

i say 'that sucks man' to everyone

This message has been edited by The_Black_Mage on October 18, 2001 at 02:21 PM

Posted by Wiley on Oct. 17 2001,22:26

I lost a friend in a car accident as well. The worst thing was all the people that said "well he shouldn't have been driving so fast". WTF is that? It's not like he was an a-hole and deserved to die because he couldn't drive for shit. We all went through a little reckless stage. I can't go 3 months withought a speeding ticket, doesn't mean I deserve to die ...just means I'm late a lot. My friends name was Paul Juhn, he helped my career more then anybody else and never wanted anything in return. He was a good guy and died at 29.
I'm sorry for your loss Dark-Angel99

Posted by Jimi on Oct. 17 2001,22:51

I know this is not a competition, but since we are sharing.

It was my dad, He died of cancer at the age of 50. He did not deserve to die. Death is the most unfair thing in the world, and i'm sure nobody will ever understand it.

But he enjoyed his life, made the most of it. I know he's in a better place now.

Dark Angel, Wiley, be safe in the knowledge that your friends knew they had great friends like you guys, i'm sure you're in their hearts as they are yours.

Posted by Rhydant on Oct. 18 2001,04:18

well, no shit your friend died. he went through an intersection at 100 MPH, lost control, rolled his car, and slammed into a house.

yeah, its said and all. and i feel really bad for ya, but it was a stupid death, and it was his own damned fault.

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Screw this crap, I've had it. I ain't no Mr. Cool.
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This message has been edited by Rhydant on October 18, 2001 at 11:19 PM

Posted by Dark-Angel99 on Oct. 18 2001,16:18

Thank you for the advice. I feel so bad for your friend

Posted by Dark-Angel99 on Oct. 18 2001,17:13

quote:
Originally posted by Rhydant:
well, no shit your friend died. he went through an intersection at 100 MPH, lost control, rolled his car, and slammed into a house.
yeah, its said and all. and i feel really bad for ya, but it was a stupid death, and it was his own damned fault.

I totally agree with you, he was being totally stupid! I visited my friend in the hospital today that survived and he was like I knew something was going to happen once I looked over and saw that he was going 100 mph! I'm just thankful he didn't die too cause it totally wasn't him fault!

Posted by The_Stomper on Oct. 18 2001,17:49

Dark-Angel, the best thing you can do now is to be close to that friend who did survive. I can tell you this from experience.

Just this summer, a close friend of mine was driving his sister home from a golf tournament, when he drifted into oncoming traffic and slammed head-on into a car not five minutes from the highway exit and home. He wasn't speeding, drunk, or driving dangerously. He had passed out from heatstroke. His sister walked away without so much as a scratch. He wasn't so lucky. He wound up with both legs badly broken, ending his sports career. But that was the good news.

In the car he crashed into were seven people; two of whom were wearing seatbelts. The two wearing seatbelts survived with minor and major injuries. The other five were killed on impact. My friend knew nothing of this. He was being heavily drugged in order to prevent him from causing further damage.

Upon waking up and being "alive", my friend had only a few short moments of happiness before realizing that he had, with no intention or responsiblilty, killed five people that day. He nearly passed out again upon hearing this.

Because the accident was caused by heatstroke, charges were difficult to determine. As far as I know, they have been dropped.

The scars are still with him, however. He still feels responsible - and although I am miles away I do what I can to be the best friend I can. I will never let him do anything that he would live - or not live, God forbid - to regret.

You have to be there for him. It's not your friend's fault. Don't let him blame himself for it.

Thank you for listening.

(*sniffles holding back tears*)