Topic: Single Again
started by: Beldurin
Posted by Beldurin on Apr. 13 2002,03:47
Well, the most recent relationship just ended. Oddly, it was a very amicable break-up. We had a disagreement a couple of nights ago b/c we hadn't really defined our relationship (basically it was b/f g/f without the titles). We both did a lot of thinking and realized that, as I'm going to be solid gone in 3 months, this really wasn't going to work. She told me that she "doesn't see me falling in love with her," and I think she's right. However, I think that she was starting to fall for me, and that's part of the reason she wanted to cauterize the wound so to speak. She's 4 yrs. younger and still has another year of college left and is afraid that she might miss out on something if we stayed in an exclusive relationship that really had no future.She still wanted to date, but also date other ppl, but I can't do that. I'm a one-to-one person. Once a relationship becomes somewhat serious, I don't date other ppl, even if the option is technically open.
Ironically, today was probably the most fun we've had together...then we had "the talk". It's funny, since we were both planning on having "the talk" that night anyway. The worst part is that we both really like each other, enjoy each other's company and personality, the sex was great, and we just generally had a good time. Oh well...life goes on, I suppose.
Posted by Wiley on Apr. 13 2002,05:43
You can still be um-friends. As in, this is my ....um ....friend 
Posted by veistran on Apr. 14 2002,01:32
or as in fuck buddies
Posted by Beldurin on Apr. 14 2002,02:07
Somehow I don't see that happening. I suppose it's possible, but I'm not going to be sleeping with someone if we're "dating other ppl." Sorry, not my thing
Posted by BlackFlag on Apr. 14 2002,07:09
i can identify with that, but i will say this: keep your options open. you never know how long it might be between relationships, if you know what i mean.
Posted by Beldurin on Apr. 14 2002,07:18
| Quote (BlackFlag @ 14 April 2002,01:09) |
| i can identify with that, but i will say this: keep your options open. you never know how long it might be between relationships, if you know what i mean. |
The last drought was a shade over 9 months.
Posted by Beldurin on Apr. 15 2002,05:37
Update for those who care: Sent her the following email:
I’ve done a lot of thinking over the past day or so, and I’ve come to a decision. I’m really unhappy about this whole situation, but like I said before, I understand that you have to do what’s right for you. I don’t want to stop
seeing you, and I really don’t like the idea of not getting to see you anymore.But it looks like that’s the way it might have to be.
I’ve thought about the idea of us dating while we’re “dating other people” andI just can’t do that. I can’t imagine you even kissing another man while we were going out (and, to be honest, it bothered me when you told me that you had…stupid, I know), let alone anything more than kissing. I’m just a one-to-one kind of guy. And me putting that kind of pressure on your actions would not only be unfair, it would be out of line.
I’m going to miss you. Your smile, your laugh, your smell, the feel of your skin next to mine. Going to sleep with you in my arms, and kissing you good morning. I know that I took you for granted over the last couple of weeks we were together, and I hope you believe me when I say I’m sorry. You truly are
a wonderful person, smart, funny, beautiful, sensual, and kind. I was lucky to know you, but we both know that I can’t give you what you want/need right now. Like I said: “we had wonderful times, but terrible timing.”
Let me know how you’re doing every once in a while, ok? I know you’ll do great, because you won’t accept anything else. But please, and I’m serious about this, don’t tell me about your love life. I honestly don’t want to hearabout it. Take care of yourself, kiddo. And try not to think and speak too badly of me, ok?
Her response just now:
I completely understand and I will miss you...you are wonderful...don't
forget to drop me a line here and there..
*sigh* Back to square one...it was great while it lasted...
Posted by The_Stomper on Apr. 15 2002,05:58
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| Originally e-mailed by Beldurin: Long, heartfelt touching summation of emotions. |
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| Originally e-mailed by Beldurin's ex: Two-line blow off. |
Ouch. That's gotta sting.
Posted by editor on Apr. 15 2002,06:50
Dunno, Mr B.Maybe she'll come to her senses in a few days...
Posted by Rhydant on Apr. 15 2002,08:14
eh, there are pleanty of fish in the seayou just have to cast out your bait.
*rimshot*
speaking of which, im gonna find me a prom date this week. wish me luck (ill fuckin need it!
Posted by veistran on Apr. 15 2002,21:52
gl on that mate