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Atepe 
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Posted on: Feb. 12 2002,04:45 |
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Okay, there is this girl, her name is Kacey for those who give a crap. I've known her for quite a while, and it's safe to say she's my best friend. I can tell you all know where this is going ... so I'll just blurt it out: I really I love her. She is a Capricorn, so naturally she's real good at hiding her emotions. We;ve been good friends for a long time and have a good relationship, I thought. It's hard to tell just what's going on in her head. All's I know is how much I care for her and now she's going out with some dumb shit that I introduced her to a while back. What really scares me (and don't laugh at this) I called a psychic a while ago, back in November, and she said (after a long, long conversation) that this girl I care for so much will start a long-term relationship in the month of January/February if I didn't tell her how I felt about her by then. She said that this girl I care for will get sick and tired of waiting around for me waiting to tell her. Unfortunately I blew the advice out my ass cuz I wasn't paying the phone bill. I thought I'd wait and see. That, and I'm scared shitless to tell her how I feel. So anyhow ... The psychic told me straight out that the one she would get involved with would be the same person who was stepping on my toes in the first place. I didn't think it was a bad idea introducing the two, for one because I never thought she would develope feelings for the little shit-bag, and for two, I was sure we would be going out real soon.  So my problem is this: I love her, but she's going out with my brain-dead friend and according to the psychic (which she is right so far) this will be long-term relationship. I'm so fucking depressed. It hit me right in the fucking ass this evening when he called me up and said "Dude, Kacey's going out with me." I wanted to reach through the phone and ring his neck and scream at him. But being the nice guy that I am I said "That's great, congrats" Now what really pisses me off is that she asked him out weeks ago and he said flat out "No, Just friends." And she called me up that night crying her eyes out cuz he said no. Well that was when I first found out that she liked the little puke and that was another kick in the balls for me. She would go over to his house and flirt with him real bad, then he'd call me up to tell me about it (He doesn't know how much I like her). I can't get this girl out of my head. She's all I've been thinking about ever since that night. I KNEW I should have told her how I felt ages ago ... but I'm weak and so I didn't. So I guess my question is should I just back down ... let them have their relationship and suffer a slow, torturous heart-ache and breakdown eventually, or should I still persue her in hopes she'll understand where I'm comming from? I had thoughts that she liked me too, mainly because she sings that song by Puddle Of Mud to me ... "Blurry" She said that it reminds her of me. I should have taken the hint and told her then. Then she told me she wrote a poem about me for an english assignment. What held me back from telling her then was that I knew in the back of my head that she still liked my friend, and that she has been thinking about both of us ... but I knew that they would end up together anyways, she just had stronger feelings for him than me, I guess. I've just been waiting for the pychic's prophecies to be fulfilled. Which they finally are. I'm so upset I just don't know what the fuck to do. Any adivice would be very very much appreciated. I just need some fucking answers. What should I do? I'm completely stunned. I feel like I can't move. Like apiece of me has been removed from me. There is a hope that I will get it back though. Well, that's what I keep telling myself anyways. Maybe the relationship wont work out. But I doubt it. I'm just really stuck in this pit. I've been hiding my feelings for her for a long time. Although there are times when I write poems for her and give them to her ... she seems to like that. Just not enough, I guess. What should I do? I feel empty inside. When I picture the two of them together it makes me sick. I have a feeling it's way too late to tell her how I feel now. Would that accomplish anything? Probably not. I'm so hopeless. I have a feeling this will last a very long time.
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Okay I'm sorry to rant on and on and on. I just really need some answers. I'm sick of trying to figure things out by myself, I'm always wrong about everything. Any words will be appreiciated. Bad, or good, it doesn't much matter to me.
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ASCIIMan
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Posted on: Feb. 12 2002,06:17 |
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Umm... why the hell did you wait around so fucking long? You shoulda got off your ass and done something, but instead listened to a psychic hoping they could rationalize your own inaction. Sorry man, I know you are probably feeling a little down right now, but you're gonna have to move on. You had months, she pretty obviously seemed to be interested in you (despite your mention of how "she was pretty hard to read", wtf?), and waited for what sounds like months. Forget about being mad at your friend or the girl, that won't help anything. Just accept things as they are and go from there. And don't fucking think a psychic will be able to tell you what to do with your life.
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PTL
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Posted on: Feb. 12 2002,06:29 |
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I agree w/ASCII for the most part here. It sounds to me like because you were chicken to tell her how you felt, you just let the psychic be right. I'm sorry, but what that person said is bullshit. If you hadn't hooked up with her, of COURSE she would have eventually hooked up w/SOMEONE. Hell, YOU introduced them for crying out loud.
My advice? Talk to her. Explain to her how you've felt about her but that you have no intentions of interferring in her current relationship. You need to get that shit off your chest. Then, leave her the hell alone. Expect rejection but don't be TOTALLY floored if she changes her mind about jerko. You just need some closure.
Don't take this as advice to try to break them up. That is NOT what I'm saying. I do NOT condone that sort of behavior at ALL but you need to tell her that you don't feel comfortable around them anymore because you've realized that you had feelings towards her and that it's just far too awkward.
But then again, I've been out of the dating game for about 6 1/2 years so you can also use this advice as toilet paper if you'd like.
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Atepe
Tuck and roll grandma
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Posted on: Feb. 12 2002,07:03 |
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No, PTL you're right. You too ASCII, I'm an idiot for not saying nothing ... I dug my own hole ... I see that now. I guess what I have to do is like you said, accept it, accept them. I had fucking MONTHS to tell her how I felt or whatever. To tell her now would be utterly pointless. I'm just gonna move on, get over it. Doesn't mean I'll like it, I'll just get used to the idea. Kind of like school, I don't like going, but I'm used to it. Thanks for your words guys.
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Dark-Angel99
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Posted on: Feb. 12 2002,07:32 |
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Look Atepe.... you have to tell this girl how you feel. It's better late than never trust me. I know how you are feeling, and trust me you will feel alot better once everything is out in the open! Good luck to you!! 
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Wolfguard
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Posted on: Feb. 12 2002,14:26 |
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Nice guys finish last for a reason. They are unwilling to do what is nessary to move forward in life. It does not always pay to be a nice guy. Look at me. Im not a nice guy and i have a great woman at my side.
If your soul sings and your heart feels like its going to burst every time you see this girl then tell her how you feel. Sit her down, make eye contact and spill your guts. Dont break eye contact and dont stop talking till your done. Dont break eye contact when she starts talking. Talk, dont whine, dont cry, just talk.
Dont wait for it to end with the other guy. this shows weakness. Never back down. Fourtune favors the bold and the strong. If you are weak in mind and spirit then you will always come out on the bottom. Dont worry about the relationship she is in right now. Only worry about the one she could be in with you.
As for the moron she is going out with. Even if he is a friend of yours ask this. Where is he going to be in 20 years? Will he still be a friend? Here is a good use for your parents. Ask them about friends they had in HS or college then ask them when was the last time they spoke to all of them out side of a reunion party. My point is friends come and go. Dont worry about hurting a friend. Chances are in 10 years you wont be talking to him anyway and he will become something you may be telling your kids.
Phone psychics are all frauds. Next time you call one ask them if they were working on sept 10 2001.
In the same breath not all psychics are frauds. the trick is to give them nothing to work with. Say nothing, keep a poker face and let them go. Most of them just read you and your body language and the rest is a guess based on what they know of people. Start the session with "Your the psychic, you tell me" as the only answer you give, even to the question of "so, whats your name?" from there you can pretty much tell the fakes from the real thing. You will see that most of them are fakes.
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Carnivore
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Posted on: Feb. 12 2002,15:56 |
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Hmmm Im pretty nice and Ive dated quite a few hot women. Damn they were good. Why would someone have to change or act like an asshole just to date some chic? I see this more and more all the time. Asshole dipshit gets hot chic, gets chic preggy, 2 weeks later they get married, 1 year later they get a divorce. Then a "nice guy" comes along and meets the single mom and they end up getting together. Maybe I just notice stuff more than other people....
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Dark Knight Bob
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Posted on: Feb. 12 2002,16:45 |
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sample the delights of backdoor love when shes not looking.
if you want to do somethign about it DO IT! no offense but you've pretty much stuffed things up bad enough as it is you cant get much worse.
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Wolfguard
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Posted on: Feb. 12 2002,16:46 |
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Dating a single mom is like buying a used car.
You always end up with someone elses problems be it the childs gene pool is poluted or someone else did a number on her first and you spend a lot of time sorting out baggage.
Still, i have had some very good used cars with no problems.
Im not talking about being a flaming asshole here. Im talking about being nice to the point where you put yourself second to everything else in the universe.
If your like that all that happens is you get to sit in front of a door for the rest of your life and say "WELCOME"
Pretty nice is not totaly nice. In you is the ability to screw someone over if there is somethign you want. Something that i think our friend that started this thread is missing or wont own up to.
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Wolfguard
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Posted on: Feb. 12 2002,16:52 |
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Atepe
IMHO: there are 2 types of people in the universe. There are Wolves and there are sheep and consquences to being both.
Wolves eat sheep. They take what they want and will even take from each other if survival demands it. You end up watching your back but you get what you want.
Sheep stand around all day and wait for the Wolves to come for them with out doing anything about it but...
Pick a side.
Me or one of mine will see you in the fields one way or another.
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