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ok i know this is a lil risky considering there aren't many girls here but...
Why do guys get so comfortable with a situation that they stop putting effort into their relationships?? and...
i hate the fact that boys totally misinterpret things. i can't be cool with a guy for very long before he starts to think that "o she wants me..." and totally starts abusing what was a decent friendship. it is so annoying!!!
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Stop making friends with guys or bang everyone. That is the ONLY way to solve that problem... either that or just DEAL with it!

Sorry, not yelling at you... but women can't even begin to comprehend how men are driven by their biology! There was an interesting LoveLine call a few months back where a chick became a transexual guy and started getting testosterone shots and everything. Anyway, she talked about how TOTALLY DIFFERENT it is to be a guy with all that sexual energy.

My point is... it's the fault of men, not women... but it's not each individual guy's mistake. We can't help it! Therefore women just need to work with it.

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ok i know this is a lil risky considering there aren't many girls here but...
Why do guys get so comfortable with a situation that they stop putting effort into their relationships?? and...
i hate the fact that boys totally misinterpret things. i can't be cool with a guy for very long before he starts to think that "o she wants me..." and totally starts abusing what was a decent friendship. it is so annoying!!!

Well, as Chrissy said in another thread, (i think it was her) most female friends of guys are 'possible fuck.' This means that a lot of your guy-friends are going to find you attractive, and their ultimate goal (whether they work at it or not) is going to be getting a little. So he's going to look for 'signs' that you want him. The solution? There may not be one, except maybe find a guy who already has a woman and won't be so damn horny like the rest of us. ;-P

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well what personguy said is true, but only to an extent. there is this girl that lives on my floor, her name is kristen. anyway, she is sorta shy, but just rediculously gorgeous and intelligent (think of denise richards with dark hair + an intelligent shy chick like kuru for exampe). i think she has a similar problem as you, which is that all the guys she knows either wanna fuck her or wanna be her friend so they have a chance to fuck her. as soon as she breaks up with her current b/f, all her guy friends start hitting on her. i know what she must be going thru tho, so i try to help her out by being a real friend as much as possible. i try my best not to flirt with her, etc. i guess your best bet is just to find guy friends who are already involved or hope you find a dorky guy like me in a similar situation. anyway, sorry i cant really offer any advice, just condolences.
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I would have to say, you're pretty screwed, girl (figuratively, of course). Jeep's right. There's a lot of biology we fight against every day in order to not drive our cars into the back of a Surburban when there's a pretty girl at the bus stop.

All I can tell you is that it gets a little better for guys over time. I'm rounding the corner on my 23rd birthday, and I can tell it's getting easier to deal with women being nearby without having to hold a book in front of my crotch... as often. A 19 year old is going to look at any word that comes out of your mouth and smacks into them as a sign that you want them. They need that self-affirming hope, because they're getting off of a 7 year streak of puberty in which they've been rejected daily. You'd think we'd learn, but it takes a while.

I'm not trying to pull rank by age here, but I can tell you that it will get easier as the guys you hang around with start running on a balanced hormone brain-diet.

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I agree with a.h- of the guys Ive dated the ones that were the most "normal" were the ones that were older (though not all of them). You need to find older guys to date and be friends with (not too much older) if you want to get out of that cycle of "oh you want me" "no I don't shit" thats how it worked for me. Also be as clear as possible with the guy when he starts to make a move just tell him "I dont think of you like that and the more you pressure me the more I m get annoyed so either cut the shit or move on" that usually works for me!

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PostIcon Posted on: May 01 2001,13:36 Skip to the previous post in this topic. Skip to the next post in this topic. Ignore posts   QUOTE

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Originally posted by spicegoddess:
ok i know this is a lil risky considering there aren't many girls here but...
Why do guys get so comfortable with a situation that they stop putting effort into their relationships?? and...
i hate the fact that boys totally misinterpret things. i can't be cool with a guy for very long before he starts to think that "o she wants me..." and totally starts abusing what was a decent friendship. it is so annoying!!!

Sounds like they cannot really communicate well and pick up on the mixed messages very heavy. Some guys take flirting very literally!!!

I agree with everyone in that dont go out with a guy thats too old! You might end up sitting at home with the kids while hes out playing golf with his buddies. And please dont pull a Celine Dion and marry someone who is older than your grandfather, sorry thats just sick.

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Every girl at work that is height/weight proportionate gets their ass stared at if they dare walk in front of me. I also do naughty things to them in my mind.

Every woman friend I've ever had, I've thought about banging them at least once, and about 90\% of them have had the pleasure of me spanking it to them more than once. This includes my cousin's wife, lot's of my friends girlfriends/wives. I still pleasure myself to some of my ex-girlfriends even though I'm very close to being engaged.

It's just the nature of the beast. But just because I have these thoughts, and act on them alone by myself, doesn't make me a bad person. I still love my girlfriend, and I have never, and will never cheat on ANYONE ever. Nor, will I ruin a friendship with a girl, just because I'd love to stick my crank in her.

So all I'm saying is I think about it all the time, but I've never gone after a friend, a taken women, or gone after greener pastures while involved with a woman.

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find a guy who already has a woman and won't be so damn horny like the rest of us. ;-P

I think this is jim's post in a nutshell. I COULD be restrain from my biology... but if nothings tying me down... why SHOULD I?

And, ask-man... all this time I thought you were over 30! Weird... I don't know how that got in my head...

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And, ask-man... all this time I thought you were over 30! Weird... I don't know how that got in my head...

Really? I guess that explains a lot too. Hell no, I'm less than a year out of school... 4 years... since I was 18... No, Man, No. That's why it's extra funny that I'm balding. (PS. Kuru is older than me)

And, I will concede with Jim and PG on all this. I've done the same thing... er, this morning. Doesn't mean things will happen, doesn't mean things will get weird. Guys are capable of being friends with a girl, and leaving all that stuff at home. And it certainly becomes easier around guys who have had experience with rejections, and successes. They tend not to be nearly as desperate, and can put flirting or talking into context. Plus, our self esteem is shot enough to never believe you're coming on to us anyways.

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