Last night I was on line talking to a friend of mine. My ex boyfriend (who hasnt been on line in ages) came on too. He and I started talking about things-- the usual-- life, work, school etc. Today on my way home from work (I take the bus to where I park my car to save money on parking fees and gas etc) on the bus I was playing with my new iPAQ- screwing around with something or other and when I pulled the thing to have the bus driver stop I saw my ex boyfriend from freshman year- my very first hard core love! (That breakup was such a mess I cried for almost 2 months straight) I havent seen him in about 2 years (and he still looks just as good as the day we met) He and I havent spoken in any capacity since I was a Sophomore in college. Anyway had I noticed him earlier I would have been more uneasy but because I only noticed him seconds before I got off the bus it was a little easier. He was sitting up in front and I was sitting more towards the back. When I got off the bus I tapped him on the knee waved hi, he waved hi back and that was it. The only thing that saved me from feeling like a total loser was that I was really busy fucking around with the iPAQ. I guess what I want to know is. Had I noticed him earlier (or lets say I see him out at a bar or tomorrow on the bus again) what do I do...

I feel like I am in a no win situation with this one because- if I am *rude* and dont say hi he thinks its because I am holding a grudge (4 years I think not) from his breaking up with me. If I get chatty with him he ll get an ego (I ve been down this road with him before - he thinks my being nice implies that I still want him). So what do I do. I know in the next three years that I am here going to Law School he and I are bound to run into each other- the same thing with my other ex (the one I saw on line last night) I just dont know how to approach them. The truth is I have interests elsewhere right now and have no interest in persuing either one of them-- but if I tell either one of them that it seems like I am trying to convince them...ugh so frustrating....any advice would be welcomed.

By the way I wasnt too sure which forum this should go into- sex or rants or what so thats why its here since most people seek general advice in the classroom forum...

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L'absence est à l'amour ce qu'est au feu le vent; Il éteint le petit, il allume le grand.
- Comte de Bussy- Rabutin

It sounds like you didn't have a lot of closer on your relationship and probably have a lot of unresolved feelings. So if you end up seeing him daily, I bet it would be good for you to have breakfast with him (mabey with some friends) once.

That's my advice...

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good luck

Im sure he will get the idea that you are still friendly with him but have no intrest in him anymore.

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All that I know there was no God for me
Force that shatters all, absence of mortality

I don't need to be with someone to feel like my life is successful. I am not in the habit of making people feel jealous so the point of me "finding someone new" is kind of moot. Besides I did say I had interests elsewhere anyway.

I just hate that uncomfortable feeling I get when I see him. I never know how to approach him because of our history. *shrug*

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L'absence est à l'amour ce qu'est au feu le vent; Il éteint le petit, il allume le grand.
- Comte de Bussy- Rabutin