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I'm just looking for ideas/advice, so if you can help it'd be appreciated.

The situation is pretty much that I met a girl over the net that lives about 2.5 hours away from here, and we really hit it off and have been together for almost a month. The other night, she was feeling bad and in one of those "I don't want to be touched" moods, so we decided to lay down in her bed and watch a movie while I massaged her back - due to this, she was only half dressed (bikini top and pants). A couple times, I put my arm around her to get a look at her face (trying to work up the courage to tell her I love her for the first time, but ended up putting it off). We both ended up falling asleep and found the next morning by her parents who apparently assumed the worst.

Now, my girlfriend is upset with me for being careless and falling asleep in her bed, touching her, and for making a bad impression on her father. Apparently, her father also thinks I have something to hide because I don't make enough eye contact with him, that I expect a "reward" from his daughter for driving to see her so often, and now for the bed thing. I didn't know anything of this nature about the father until tonight.

So, anyone have a bit of advice they can offer on the situation?

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PostIcon Posted on: Jan. 07 2001,01:32 Skip to the previous post in this topic. Skip to the next post in this topic. Ignore posts   QUOTE

get chummy with the dad. when your in with the father, everything falls into place from there. and dammit, apologize to people...thats really all....personguy will be along later with a really good response, and an experience of his you can relate it to.....
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It's not easy to find a father that likes the boy going after his daughter... much less after them finding you in bed together. They're also going to have a hard time trusting the guy that she found out on the 'Scary Internet Place'.

As for being careless, you kind of both had a problem with that. She fell asleep too. And, I assume she didn't have much problem with you touching her, as she was coaxed out of half of her clothes.

So, I don't know what she could possibly be pissed about unless it's something other than those things... That, or you're an actual asshole which I don't want to assume. Don't know what you can do besides attempt to communicate. Just don't be on the assault, or too defensive.

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PostIcon Posted on: Jan. 07 2001,09:32 Skip to the previous post in this topic. Skip to the next post in this topic. Ignore posts   QUOTE

for once i agree with sithee talk to her dad, even maybe take a few minutes out of your time with her to talk to him. he will notice that

and where is personguy anyway? he should be here offering his similar life experience!

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PostIcon Posted on: Jan. 07 2001,09:37 Skip to the previous post in this topic. Skip to the next post in this topic. Ignore posts   QUOTE

I've done quite a bit of appologizing and talking to her already just to find out what I now know about the situation with her dad. I'm thinking it might be best to let him cool off a bit before talking to him because from what I gather, he isn't in the best of moods about it. I've taken time out to spend a few minutes with him before, but the man is like talking to a brick wall.

Thanks for the advice.

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PostIcon Posted on: Jan. 07 2001,10:09 Skip to the previous post in this topic. Skip to the next post in this topic. Ignore posts   QUOTE

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get chummy with the dad.

yea, ok. I want to be chummy with the guy thats fucking my little girl.

Hey, thats what the father is thinking. Im thinking your screwed. If the parents are this much of a pain in the ass now it will only get worse with time.

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PostIcon Posted on: Jan. 07 2001,18:13 Skip to the previous post in this topic. Skip to the next post in this topic. Ignore posts   QUOTE

yeah, i guess thats really something you do before you get caught in bed with his daughter...but ive never been in such a situation before, and it seemed like a good idea...
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Hahaha.. yeah well, sucks to be you.


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yeah, i guess thats really something you do before you get caught in bed with his daughter...but ive never been in such a situation before, and it seemed like a good idea...

Again, i would not want to be friends with a guy that would even think of fucking my daughter.

Look at it this way. If you had a daughter and i showed up at your door...

Nuff said

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How old are you, and how old is she?

That's pretty important in this situation.

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